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39+4 weeks and flat stomach!

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Becka1408 Mon 13-Jun-11 11:22:17

Hi i have posted before but i really need to speak to someone today. I am so scared i still don't have a bump and i'm due to give birth any day now. I can feel baby move and things but this fear of something being wrong is over taking my life, I can't sleep i can't properly look after my daughter i can't clean my home. I have been getting routine scans and things and the obstetrician thinks everything is fine and that i am just one of those 'lucky ones'. I know baby is small (On 10th centile like my daughter was) But i would still expect a bump. I see some woman with bumps at 10 weeks and here i am about to give birth with nothing and i mean nothing! I am normally a thin person so it's not hiding behind fat and i am not tall at all only 5ft so baby can't be hiding in a long torso. I just don't know what to do. I have spoken about my concerns and these have been put down to anxiety. But wouldn't use feel the same? I just can't shake the feeling that this baby is going to be born with severe defects or not be born alive sad Sad i know but i really really need some help. I do not know what to do. OH is getting fed up with my constant tears and worries and i don't blame him ive been like this for weeks and my fears are getting worse as each day approaches. Please help!

Squiglettsmummy2bx Mon 13-Jun-11 11:34:32

I just wanted 2 send u a hug. I am sure that if ur scans r ok then baby is fine, my friend hardly showed wiv her pregnancy & her baby boy was small but perfect. I on the other hand will b like a baby elephant but never mind. Hope this makes u feel a lil better xxx

Cattleprod Mon 13-Jun-11 11:39:44

Has your waist measurement gone up at all? It may be that you've just expanded all round rather than just at the front, and if your tummy muscles are good and the baby is small with not a huge amount of fluid, then it might have enough room within your torso. I think they would have picked up anything wrong on a scan.

Becka1408 Mon 13-Jun-11 13:06:11

Hey thanks for your messages.

Cattleprod it is only my waist that has got a little bigger but i do not have a bump. xx

Sargesaweyes Mon 13-Jun-11 13:14:03

My friend was one of those people who had no idea she was pregnant until 2 weeks before birth. Unbelievable as it sounds she had no symptoms, no bump and also carried no weight (all this from a one night stand at Uni). Her daughter was born perfectly fine- just small. I know it is hard not 2 worry but the scans would have picked up issues I'm sure. Talk 2 your midwife though if you r anxious, they should do more 2 put your mind at rest.

Becka1408 Mon 13-Jun-11 16:21:14

Hi Sargesaweyes i hope i am like your friend then, i just want baby to be healthy xxx

MmeLindor. Mon 13-Jun-11 16:25:32

I had a colleague like you.

When I heard she was pregnant, I went to congratulate her and she told me that she was going on maternity leave that week. I had more of a bump, and I wasn't even pregnant!

She had been assured that the baby was fine, but so many people were saying, "oh, you aren't even showing a bit, I hope that the baby is ok" and she was really worried about it.

Her baby was born not long after and was totally healthy, small but not worryingly so. She was a small woman too.

Phone your midwife, or your GP and make an appointment. Tell them that your fears. Don't try to keep it inside, let it out and talk to someone about it.

oinkyoink Mon 13-Jun-11 16:28:34

Hi, if you are feeling anxious about this you should talk to your midwife. There are midwives who deal with anxiety before giving birth to help you overcome worries you may have in relation to the baby and so on.

Good luck!

SenoritaViva Mon 13-Jun-11 16:29:22

My friend was flat as a pancake with her first, baby was fine (now a strapping 6 year old).

CBear6 Mon 13-Jun-11 16:31:30

My cousin didn't show at all. Her waist measurement went up but she didn't have any kind of a bump at all and some people didn't even realise she had been pregnant until they saw her pushing a pram afterwards.

If the scans are showing she's healthy then try not to worry, some ladies show more than others is all.

daimbardiva Mon 13-Jun-11 17:19:10

I also have two friends who hardly had any bump at all by the time they gave birth- and everything was fine, both their baby boys are 2 now.

Do talk to your midwife or your GP though - that is what she is there for, and all this worrying is obviously not good for you or the baby, so you need a sympathetic and knowledgable ear to set your mind at rest.

If the scans have not shown any problems then I'm sure everything is fine, but do talk to someone.

Thinking of you xx

pearl297 Mon 13-Jun-11 18:48:31

I have a friend who had no bump at all and did not know she was pregnant until she went into labour on holiday in Spain!! I never thought it was possible but she gave birth to a small but perfectly healthy baby who is a healthy bright 3 year old now. In fact her tummy was that flat that there are photos of her in a bikini a day before she gave birth! Scans are that advanced now that they would pick up on any problems early on so im sure everything’s fine.

Im 38 weeks and at my antenatal class last week the midwife made us line up in order of due date (most embarrassing) the range in bump sizes was massive and you wouldn’t have put us in that order if you had to guess going off bump size. My bumps quite small too but alas my bottom seems to have expanded 10 fold.

Good luck [big grin] x

candr Mon 13-Jun-11 19:08:31

My friend has 4 kids and did not show with any of them, no one even knew she was pregnant each time until she showed up with another baby. All 4 are fit and healthy - scan would have picked up anything severe but I sympathise with you missing being able to look pregnant, at least you are saving money on clothes. There are lots of sites here you can see photos of people with different size bumps. Try not to stress.

Becka1408 Mon 13-Jun-11 20:04:42

Thanks ladies there is a lot of reassuring messages there and i do feel better after having a read. I know these worries will crop back up but i just need to keep myself occupied for the next few days. Hopefully baby will be fine and ill be back here soon telling you I'm a paranoid cookie lol (i hope so) xxx

WiiUnfit Tue 14-Jun-11 09:38:36

Hi Becka, no experience to share with you I'm afraid but did you see the story about the woman who was in the Sun a while back, she didn't even know she was pregnant - weighed 8st and had a flat stomach & gave birth to a healthy 8lb baby! smile

I hope everything will be fine with you too & I'm sure it will be, good luck!

Becka1408 Thu 16-Jun-11 09:31:39

Well it's due date today and i still look as thin as ever sad Getting a stretch and sweep and no doubt i'll speak to the consultant again about how concerned i am for him to tell me the baby is fine!! I wish i could get a picture up to show you ladies it's unreal sad xxxx

Mole007 Thu 16-Jun-11 10:05:24

Good luck with the stretch and sweep, and don't worry about the lack of bump. I did not have one, and people did not believe I was expecting (a bit of a nuisance on the tube at peak hour) but a perfect DS was born weighong in at just over 7lb.

Just remember, whilst I was suffering huge bump envy, my ante-natal pals were just so jealous of my lack of stretch marks......grin Oh, and no need for tent clothes!!!!

Dara1993 Mon 04-Sep-17 13:03:13

Hi everyone am 3months on but am still spitting. To me it's really weird and embracing as I spit at most everywhere... Anyone knows how to tackle this.. ..?

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