Hi everyone! I had posted some questions earlier about getting an elective c section due to my tokophobia. Thanks to everyone's help, I've decided that if I dont find a sympathetic NHS consultant I'll be going private at the Portland.
Now because of my history of abuse, I have a severe phobia of being examined( I never even go for pap smears-stirrups make me physically SICK) and I was wondering if the following requests will accepted-
- I dont want the transvaginal ultrasound AT ALL( they are optional in many countries, so im assuming they aren't absolutely essential?)
- I dont want any pap smears under any circumstances. I'll consent to internal exams only if absolutely required( Im told they dont do these in the UK anyway- im confused)I will be ok with some towards the end like around 38 weeks to check dilation( provided they are required if you are getting a c section) and stuff, but thats it.
- I'd like female nurses and midwives to prep me for the c section.
(I will pick a female consultant if I go to Portland, but even if the consultant is male, I dont want male nurses or midwives, because it freaks me out)
So is this all too much to ask for? I know legally I can refuse all I want, but doctors have a way of bullying and patronizing.
Also, what happens when you are pregnant and its your first visit to the doctor? I havent even been to one yet. I went to my family doctor back home to confirm the pregnancy. She is familiar with my history, so it was not a problem. What will the first visit be like here?