Depressed in PG

[Eviepoo]

...does this mean I will be depressed when the baby arrives - my DH seems to think that because I am so down now I'm going to be worse.
I'm down because I am so fed up of feeling ill - yes the sickness is back and my feet look like elephant feet. I am just looking forward to the birth, yet my DH keeps saying I'm so worried you won't bond with baby etc etc
Is he being daft?

[aStarInStrangeways]

I don't know if he's being daft, but if that's all he's saying then he's not being helpful It's worth thinking about how you might address it if you do find yourself becoming/remaining depressed after birth - there's lots of support available for new mums who need it, as thankfully PND is well recognised now - but just scaremongering that you will definitely have an issue is rather irresponsible, IMO.

It sounds like you are circumstantially depressed, rather than struggling with a sudden onset of clinical depression, iyswim, so I wouldn't assume that your DH is right. It's normal to feel fed up after feeling like shit for x amount of time, not to mention worrying about the impending change of life. Next time he brings it up, you could say "well, IF that happens let's be prepared for how we're going to tackle it eh? Together." Then make some enquiries about local support services, talk to your midwife, read around the subject. Or you could just tell him to STFU

[redundant]

I felt this with when pregnant with my first (and am heading that way pregnant with my second now!), but if you're like me it was purely down to circumstance.

I was horribly sick throughout my pregnancy, so felt isolated from my friends and had no social life. I also had to give up my hobby/passion (horse riding) for the duration.

All those things meant I just couldn't wait to have the baby, and, in comparison to the months of hard slog and being sick and miserable that had gone before, having a newborn was a (relative!) breeze! And I had no trouble bonding.

But, I think like aStarinStrangeways says, it would be sensible to have a plan for what you'll do if you do have trouble after the birth, and where you'll seek help from. No harm in being prepared and might help you and DH feel more in control.

Will keep fingers crossed for you that you have a good birth and enjoy the first few months, hang in there!