Pregnant after 3 MC.. advice??

[florizella]

Am new here.. mumble..

I spent 4 years TTC followed by 3 MC and no baby to show for it with ex husband. Relationship broke down and am now with lovely new guy & engaged :).
I wanted to TTC though considered it rather hopeless due to previous history (Tested positive for heterozygous factor V leiden) and in the second month have a positive pregnancy test!
He is delighted (and very pleased with himself!) but I am very nervous.. went panicking to the GP who was brill but 5 week scan shows little apart from that everything is as it should be. Have another appt in 2 weeks, wish I could start getting excited and happy, but am too scared, and don't want to tell anyone.

Am following all the advice given, but am worried about being 35, about working, about the mild period pains I am still having at 6 weeks, about eating though the constant MS (much worse than in my previous PGs), sleeping, exercising, and basically how can I cope with life?

Please help!

[4pudding]

MS is a good sign. Period type pains to be expected as your uterus expands to fit it's new lodger. Everything as it should be.

I had 2 MCs after one healthy baby and know the worrying! I booked a few extra private scans between my NHS ones so I had closer dates to 'aim for' iykwim.

Im not going to tell you not to worry, but try to work towards smaller goals, so the end of the week rather than looking months ahead.

Big hugs (())

[jasmine51]

Good advice 4pudding. I am 32 wks now after 4 prevous mcs and I am 43. The way I kept myself sane in the early days was a couple of extra private scans and using a hired doppler once bean was old enough to have an audible heartbeat...otherwise I would have been down the MW every other day demanding checkups!
You will get through the stressful early days, you will cope and every day will become easier but until then I would really advocate doing whatever you can do to control your stress. As a runner I soon found it too uncomfy to run so took up swimming and yoga and that has helped alot. You could consider some counselling to let go of the painful feelings from your past losses or explore something like reiki to clear any blocked energies, depends on what your personal beliefs are.
Lastly, if you have any worrying pains or odd feelings, do post them on MN - there is a wealth of comfort on here for you re what is and isnt normal.
Congrats by the way x

[florizella]

Many thanks for your lovely messages!
I am a runner too jasmine, though don't think I could even consider running atm, paula radcliffe aside! It sounds like you've had a long and rather horrid time of it, so best of luck to you! Will try yoga.
4pudding, you're right, I hadn't even realised that I was 'aiming' for my next scan date, but I can't seem to think of anything else, thankfully its only in a week and a half..
I think I'l be on here the whole time worrying about 'what's normal', hopefully no-one at work will notice!

[daimbardiva]

As others have said, the fact that you have MS is a good sign. I'm at 17weeks follwoing a mc at 6 weeks last year - during that pregnancy I had no symptoms, but have felt pretty awful this time!

Agree with the not "aiming" for scans, whether subconciously or conciously - someone said something v helpful, but v simple to me - every day and every week that passes means that the chances of mc get less and less.

This has really helped me overcome my anxiety and start to relax a bit about the pregnancy.

Wishing you all the very best! x

[PinkFondantFancy]

Congratulations on your BFP! If you want, feel free to join this thread freak out room - it's full of ladies that are newly pregnant after MC and there is lots of lovely support and hand holding going on.

FWIW the period pains really freaked me out but apparently it's completely normal, and it's either your bowels or your uterus stretching. The advice from the others on having small milestones e.g. each passing week is fab as well, it definitely makes the whole thing feel more manageable rather than looking forward to say the 12 week scan which feels like it's a long way away.