Hiding and coping with "morning" sickness

[Icoulddoitbetter]

Afternoon ladies,

I know there are lots of threads already about how ways to deal with the nausea, but I'm wondering if people have any tips on ho how to hide it too?

When I was pg with DS we were pretty indiscrete and so I didn't really have to hide how crappy I was feeling. This time we've decided not to tell anyone for a good while, but I'm struggling already at 5+2! I was out with my mum today (can't tell her till the first scan, she'll not cope well if I have a mc so I wouldn't tell her) and I was trying to breathe slowly through my mouth whenever we walked past a coffee shop/ cafe. Her newly decorated house is making me retch too.

On my days off work I tend to go for coffee pretty regularly with my mummy friends. I'm now at the point where the smell of it makes me heave, and even tea is becoming a struggle. How do I hide that?!

I'm also struggling because the things that helped me through last time (crackers, cheese bicuits etc) I haven't been able to touch since my last pg as I ate so much of them, and I just associate them with feeling sick. Really not sure what else to have i their place.

I am going to try the accupressure bands. But again, people are going to notice them. My mum bought some recently to help with travel sickness so if she sees me wearing them she'll clock straightaway....

I'm not sure how I can hide this for another seven weeks, as Im know from experience it's going to get alot worse before it gets better, arrrghh!

[Icoulddoitbetter]

Bump???

[Lulie110]

Awww. Firstly, try not to worry so much about it being a secret. People may well guess, especially your Mummy friends - they'll have been there/done that too. So it is of course your choice who you tell but maybe don't be so hard on yourself in case people do find out?

I think that very often, when ever we change habits (eg booze, coffee), people guess straightaway! But I found saying I was on a diet and Must Not Be Tempted worked for me. It also worked with my ever-growing tummy - it was the 'proof' that I needed to diet IYSWIM.

And I chewed A Lot of gum, to help with nausea (not sure if it did though?) and to mask smells that made me want to hurl.

[curlyeve]

Ive had so much trouble with it and so many people guessed. I wore long sleeved tops and no one noticed the acupressure bands :) plus its winter so it wont look unusual. The biggest thing for me was acting - when I put on the act that I didn't feel sick, I normally get away with it :) maybe try pretending your on a detox from caffine
good luck though!! and hope you feel better soon :)

[lolajane2009]

Lol I just told them it was a bad reaction from coming off my anti depressants when in laws seemed concerned... thankfully my pills were strong so they believed it.

[nannyl]

i couldnt hide mine

was being sick from 5+6... ended up in hospital at 8 weeks in ante-natal ward so couldnt have hidden then!

been signed off since 6 weeks and been bedridden with sickness since. (im 12 weeks now)

you have my sympathies

[LadyOfTheManor]

I had horrific sickness :(

Fresh paint and coffee and cigarette smoke did it for me.

I really sympathise, ginger also makes me gag.

I found sniffing ginger and lemon oil a bit better, or using a handkerchief covered in lavender oil a good decoy...or fill it with a smell that won't make you gag.

[Rumpel]

acupuncture - 'tis fab. Doesn't make it go away completely but it does mean you can do things. I was horrifically sick up to 28 weeks - bleurgh. Much mcuh sympathies.xxx

[Icoulddoitbetter]

Thanks ladies. It sounds like some of you had it awful. I'm hoping it won't get worse than last time, just a lovely steady feeling of wanting to vom!

This is the problem I have with trying to hide it. I know people will guess, but won't want to say anything as obviously I'm not telling them. But DH say's no to saying anything yet.

Lulie No-one would believe me if I said I was on a diet, I'm completely addicted to crap food!

[nannyl]

Im having acupunture too & highly recommend it

had as well as travel bands am having needle plasters on my wrists so have a mini needle in me most of the time!

[Lulie110]

Icoulddoitbetter I'm not sure that I was very convincing with my 'diet'/'health kick' either!!! But at least I felt happy using as my get out of jail free card, for whatever thing I wanted to avoid at the time.

Poor lots of people on this thread, you've had it tough.

Tissue/hanky with an oil on it was another one for me. I used lime oil, as anything overly floral (like LOTM's lavender) set me off...

[NatzCNL]

On my really bad days with DD1 I told people that I was hung over or had eaten something dodgy if I was so green that they were worried. With DD2 I couldn't use the hang over line but used DD1 as reason for nausea - she was only 7 months when I fell again. Would tell people she had had a tummy bug and thought I may have picked it up. Or was ill from lack of sleep etc...
This time around Ive been very lucky and only suffered for about 3 weeks with nausea (I say lucky but am worried about the lack of symptons). I rarely saw anyone during the sickie weeks, but finally told my parents last week. I didn't want to tell anyone till our nuchal scan as our last pregnancy was very complicated and sadly ended soon after the nuchal scan, but my bulging tum has caused me to spill the beans to our families. I am still in hiding from my friends though
I hope your nausea passes soon

[FluffyDonkey]

I've used the following excuses :

Migraine (I get them loads anyway so a very handy excuse!)
Eaten something dodgy (got away with a whole week at work looking green with that one!)
Something wrong - maybe flu, but not sure, just feel under the weather and tired

I got to the point where water made me throw up so I can't advise any food to help with the sickness. In fact, what really helped was not eating anything at all!

Also spraying perfume on my scarf and wrapping it round my nose (pretending I was sooooo cold!)

[Rumpel]

Forgot to say sucking on sour sweets helped too - used to get Sourz but not seen them since 06!

[theonlyhb2]

i gave up, everyone at work heard me throwing up all day having not touched alcohol so it was pretty obvious! like nannyl i have had hypermesis and its impossible to hide!

I have to hold my breath when near smokers, one whiff = instant puke. and I used to be a smoker.....!

[Rumpel]

Angel perfume - makes me wanna barf even when not preggers LOL. How did everyone take it then?

[jenniec79]

For the short term could you claim a bug going round at work - norovirus or similar would give you reason to run to the loo a lot!

[littlebrighteyes]

i had hypermesis with my daughter last year -couldnt hide it at all.

was housebound for alot of the first 3 months -in hospital on drip at around 6 weeks/couldnt even keep water down.

i couldnt walk far in the street for having to retch and puke down kerbs/hedges/bushes/ you name it -i did it.....smells were so heightened....its strange cause i didnt have it like that when i was expectingg my boys.

it gave me a bit of a phobia of being sick in public to say the least :(

hope it starts getting better for you soon :)