SO having decided that we absolutely don't want any more children (started taking bags of stuff to Oxfam), I discovered two days ago that I am pregnant with number four.
I felt totally shocked. My children are 6, 4 and 18 months, and both me and my husband were really looking forward to the next stage, and enjoying having our lives back a little. I am 36 - so not really very young anymore either - although not too old either I suppose (although I sometimes feel it!)
I sobbed and sobbed when I found out. I just felt so exhausted by the prospect, and as though I couldn't summon the energy and excitement to do it all again.
By the time my husband got home though, I was already starting to feel a bit more positive.
He is totally negative and just says "I'm so sorry, I just can't". I feel really sorry for him, but I think now we are in different places. I have made an appointment with an abortion clinic, to "discuss our options" but really, I feel that I just couldn't go through with this.
I know that he would, if it were up to him though. And i do respect his thoughts on this.
I feel backed into a corner. I don't feel that I can have a termination, not really , without feeling like i will always regret it, and blame him. On some level I have started seeing this as something that was somehow meant to be. I am one of four, and I have to say that I think it's a great number. BUT I had totally decided that our family was complete, and I was happy with it, and looking forward to the next stage. I feel worn out. Will I be able to do another 2 years of weaning, nappies, sleepless nights and "the wheels on the bus".
I think that really, I have made my decision, and that I want to have this baby. But I really need to get my DH on board too. He's an amazing father, and I just couldn't face a fourth child without his support.
Anyone else in a similar situation? Or have you been before? What happened and how did you work it out?
Would love to hear from you x
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Unplanned 4th pregancy. In turmoil.
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Suzie3 · 02/02/2011 20:25
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