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Did anyone think it would never happen?

(22 Posts)
Greeneyesbigbottom Tue 21-Dec-10 13:47:30

I'm looking for some hope ladies!

Been TTC for 2+ years (unexplained infertility) and just wondered how long it took you and did you ever lose hope?

I'm trying to be positive this month grin and hope santa brings us something special.

thefurryone Tue 21-Dec-10 14:06:13

Yes, I was totally prepared to end up childless (never wanted to go down the route of fertility treatment or adoption). About 4 years ago I had fibroids on my cervix and at the time was 2 cysts on my ovaries away from being diagnosed with PCOS, since then I have had weight issues and developed a very hairy chin so I'm pretty certain that sure that I do actually have PCOS and I'm almost certain that I didn't ovulate every month.

Although we stopped using contraception when we got married we decided not to label what we were doing as "trying" and just see how it all went mainly because I have a stressful enough life as it is without adding extra pressure. So in some ways I didn't loose hope because I had decided not to have much in the first place, although I did remain positive if that makes sense.

Got pregnant 18 months after being contraception free and am now 22 weeks. The timing is probably the least ideal that it could be for the next few years which I'm certain helped wink

Good luck, keep having lots of sex and I hope you get positive result soon smile

flowerfairy Tue 21-Dec-10 16:36:09

YEs i lost hope regularly after it taking only 3 months to conceive DS and wanting to wait until ds was at least 3 to try again. It has taken us 3 years this time. I am now 30 weeks and will be 38 when baby is born. We had periods of really frantic trying and months where we did less. I had moments when i would come to terms with ds being an only child and be grateful for what i had. Last Christmas i told dh that we would try for 6 more months as i felt that i was getting older( i know there are older mothers but that was my opinion) and the age gap was getting bigger. I had sought some medical opinions but as we had already had ds there was little help on offer, without paying. I

I was so shocked when i found out I was pg again, but extremely happy and grateful. My fingers are crossed for you and although it is easy to say and harder to do, relax, have fun together and enjoy your couple time and the sex. I think i conceived after a short camping break and we came home and i can only think i was more relaxed. Best wishes and good luck.

Sunnyandwild Tue 21-Dec-10 17:21:36

Hi - I had been trying for 2 1/2 years, no mc just not pg each month...and then just two days ago I found out I was pg. Was totally shocked... had more or less given up... so there is lots of hope!! (Though of course I know it's early days...) Also know a friend who tried for 2 - 3 years before she got pg and another friend who tried 10 years before it happened!!
Sending good vibes your way....

Armi Tue 21-Dec-10 17:25:38

It took us 18 months and I was so convinced it would never happen that I threw away the first positive test because I thought it was faulty!

Stick with it.

All the best.

Natzer Tue 21-Dec-10 17:45:32

It took us 4 years, we had all the tests and were convinced I wasn't ovulating and also that DH had low sperm motility too, went away on holiday, came back and went through the post expecting to see a prescription for clomid from the hospital as a last ditch attempt before ivf, no prescription weirdly, but realised I was 4 or so days late. Tested just for the hell of it (must have done hundreds of negative tests in the 4 years clutching at straws) and hey presto! Am now 23 weeks and can't wait until April.

We were convinced we were trying too hard!

good luck x

sh77 Tue 21-Dec-10 17:46:25

I coming at this from a different angle. I experienced the neo natal death of my first baby and 2 MCs within the space of 14 months. I did start to lose hope that I wouldn't be be able to carry a child. I am on 4th preg and currently 27 weeks - I have moments of great hope and others of numbness. Holding my breath until baby arrives.

Wish you all the very best.
xx

bettywobble Tue 21-Dec-10 18:40:39

I am 24 weeks pregnant, and it took me 7 years between ds and this one, with 6 mc in between, so never give up hope

snowmummy Tue 21-Dec-10 19:11:24

We had a couple of years of ttc followed by two cycles of IVF around 10 years ago neither of which worked. After a further 4 years of rearranging our lives and coming to terms with the fact that we wouldn't have children I conceived DC1 and I am now pg with DC3.

Alamaya Tue 21-Dec-10 19:24:59

Been with my hubby 8 years.
Started trying after 2 years.
Found out last year our problem is low sperm count and odds are it would of never happened for us naturally.
I am now 19 weeks pregnant after ICSI.
I never thought it would happen for us and shed so many tears and to this day i still have fears this dream will end xx

cawood77 Tue 21-Dec-10 19:54:20

Dont ever give up hope. I have been with my other half for 10 years, married for 7 and trying for nearly 7 years - I am now 39 weeks pregnant. The reason for not conceiving early was put down to my PCOS and a high BMI.

We never thought this would happen to us and still cant believe it is happening - even though our house has been taken over by tiny pink clothes and baby equipment.

Never give up hope!!!

sotough Tue 21-Dec-10 20:20:59

i had four miscarriages in a row and often feared i wouldn't have any more children. (i'm lucky enough to have one DS who arrived before all the miscarriages started.) the miscarriages started when i was in my early 30s and nobody could really find an explanation.
we went to the ends of the earth, with experimental
treatment etc, and i'm now 36 weeks pg.
I have a dear friend who went through four or five years of IVF, with loads of failed cycles, and now has the most gorgeous three year old girl, after using a donor egg at a Spanish clinic.
please keep going - miracles do happen.

Nightstar Tue 21-Dec-10 20:37:40

Hi, we were trying for just over two years. Trying every single month, all the wee sticks, everything. We had all the tests done and could find nothing wrong. We eventually got a referral from our doctors to the fertility clinic. The day of our appointment i did a test in the morning on the off chance and it was positive! Sometime it just takes a while.... Keep trying xx

IfAtFirstUDontSucceed Tue 21-Dec-10 21:00:14

Yes, it took us over 3 years, and a diagnosis of unexplained infertility too. As frustrating as it is, I think you just have to persevere, although, that isnt what you want to hear at all! Good luck! BTW - some folk may roll their eyes at this, but the first month that I tried a mooncup to aid conception, it worked! May be just a coincience, but hey,anything is worth a shot and it paid off for us wink

Lauzifer Tue 21-Dec-10 21:45:45

I was diagnosed with PCOS 6 years ago and tried for 3 years with my ex partner to get pregnant. I was a little overweight and went two years without having a single period. I was put on clomid but it wasn't sucessfull.
When i split with my ex i lost a couple of stone and as the weight gradually shed my periods returned.

I've been with my cuurent partner for nearly two years and i'm 29 weeks pregnant. After 6 years of coming to terms with the thought i wouldn't be a mummy it came as a very pleasent suprise. We weren't trying to concieve. It has been emotionally draining and many tears have been shed but my dream of becoming a mum has come true.

justbeingmummy Wed 22-Dec-10 09:40:25

Hi, just wanted to say please dont give up hope!!
I felt exactly as you did until July this year. I had 2nd infertility, so I was lucky enough to have my DC1 with no probs and then expected the same to happen when we ttc the 2nd time. Fastforward 2 year and still no baby. I was put on clomid as my ovulation was a bit hit and miss, and was told I would be pg within 3 months but after 9 months of taking it still nothing. I was then offered a laproscopy in March this year to burn off my endometriosis and was told afterwards is wasnt half as bad as it had been when I had concieved my first child. The consultant was baffled and got quite frustrated as there was no reason why we shouldnt be pg. I was told I had 3 more months of clomid left then I was on my own as I would need IVF and there was no funding as I was not yet 30 and I already have 1 child. I left devestated knowing I could never afford it and thinking I would never have a baby.
Then in July I had a 'stomach bug' turned out to be morning sickness lol! I am now 26 weeks and expecting another little boy in April.

I know how hard it is to keep positive and its easy for me to sy now, but I believe that it happens when it is meant to for us all.

Im sending you a massive sack load of babydust and wish you loads of luck x x

CrazyChristmasLady Wed 22-Dec-10 09:46:31

I didn't think it would ever happen.

Took 3 years to conceive DS, found out I had endometriosis and DH had problems as well. Hospital told us our only option was IVF and we would only get 1 cycle on the NHS (couldn't afford private).

3 weeks before we were due to start, I found out I was pregnant.

This time, doctor said it was likely to take a long time again and we should start trying before we actually planned to. Was going to wait until DS turned 3. I got pregnant the first try and this DC is due 9 days after DS's 3rd birthday!

Don't give up hope! I used to say to DH that I couldn't ever see it happening. Before I was diagnosed with endo, I knew there was something that meant I wasn't going to get pregnant. I had laser surgery to get rid of it and after that I thought that it could happen after all, 3 months later, it did!

Greeneyesbigbottom Wed 22-Dec-10 13:28:12

Thank you so much for your messages!

I have a renewed sense of hope and will try and remain positive for the New year!

Congratulations to you all xx

bitingfairy Wed 22-Dec-10 13:56:36

It's so hard to be positive isn't it? But I'm another one with a success. We concieved DD really quickly (she's 7 now) and when we decided to try for another it wouldn't happen. 2-3 years on after loads of tests, diagnosis of PCOS and lots of heartbreak we gave up, and I decided to leave work and start my own business as a new project. Of course within a month I was pg and am now 35 weeks. Crappy timing seems to help!

Ladyofthehousespeaking Wed 22-Dec-10 14:21:25

Yup! I gave up after being diagnosed with PCO- the month after I started on cileste pill and started a new job...
I got pregnant literally the first month of being back on the pill and am now nearly 10 weeks! I really am keeping my fingers crossed for you, I hope it happens very soon indeed x

Ladyofthehousespeaking Wed 22-Dec-10 14:22:29

Wow bitingfairy are we twins???

nunnie Wed 22-Dec-10 14:52:34

It took me 4 years to get pregnant with DD and 2 years and 7 months to get pregnant with DS. Never gave up hope and glad I didn't.

Always remain positive (I know it's hard).

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