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birth plan for second baby - did you bother?(4 Posts)
I'm interested to know if most people write a birth plan for their second baby?
I'm having no2 in a different hospital to where I had no1 and so they won't have much information about my first labour (which was horrendous) though obviously they have the basic medical details.
I'm also keen that the midwives are aware that i've had multiple miscarriages since my first son and that I may become very anxious or even panicky during labour though i hope i manage to be cool calm and collected [hmm
I'm just not sure how i'm going to cope this time round, with the combination of all the fears brought back by a very difficult first labour and the huge build up we've had to this very special second child.
does anyone have any advice? is there any point writing a note for the midwives to explain this background?
in terms of the actual birth/pain relief etc i am just pretty open minded this time round and will go with the flow (or lack of it.) last time i had a very long pre labour and very long labour - 30hrs+ from start to finish; ending up with several failed ventouse attempts and an episiotomy - though most importantly a healthy son. no epidural, just gas and air and a dose of pethidine.
I actually wrote a birth pln for 2nd and 3rd but not for my 1st as i had a more definitive idea of what I wanted as I had a better idea what to expect.
In your circumstances I may be inclind to do one.
If you are likely to et panicky and upset to have your feelings and wishes outlined in a calm manner and also if you are panicky you may not feel able to expres how you feel.
It also may be cathartic and help calm you in labour knowing that you have it all written down should the need for it arise.
I had a very upsetting first labour. Towards the end of my second pregnancy I had a fantastic debrief of that first labour, with a specialist midwife. It was hugely empowering. Not only did the debrief ease a lot of my distress about the first labour, it helped me understand how to avoid the same things happening again, and I wrote my birthplan for the second labour with this in mind.
Overall the birthplans for all my labours have not been significantly different, apart from notes on who I wanted to care for me and clear indications of things that distressed me and that therefore had either to be avoided or else very carefully addressed.
BTW second labour was so much better than first, and it wiped outthe distress left by the first labour. I can remember that I was distressed, but the emotion has been wiped out. A bit like remembering the pain of labour: eventually you remember only the fact, not the sensation..
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