I dont feel like I have bonded with my now overdue baby. Im really worried I will feel this way when he/she is born. Everyone is so exited about the iminate birth but I just cant imagin how things will be once born. Will my feelings change once the little one arrives? I really really hope so.
they might change themoment you look into its eyes. Or it might take a while, days or weeks or months. I wouldn't sweat it - a lot of women don't bond instantly but it comes later. Please don't worry. (sitting here next to my passionately adored ds1 who I was quite indifferent to for the first few months )
Don't worry, it's hard to 'bond' with an abstract notion. I found that I didn't really feel anything towards DS1 during pregnancy but fell totally in love with him a few days after he was born. I am pregnant with DC2 now and I feel more towards her then I ever felt whilst I was pregnant with DS as I know what I am getting and how much I adore DS and how much I love newborns. It's perfectly normal and natural.
I didn't really 'bond' with my babies prior to their birth. I was concerned for their welfare, tried to eat the right things, protected them from bumps etc, but it all seemed rather academic, and I don't think I really accepted that there were babies in there. Even the many NHS 2-D scans and a private 3-D scan didn't make it seem like there were baboes in there - the babies were on the screen, not in my belly!
Now I have two beautiful babies, both of whom I have most definately bonded with. It is an unbelievable feeling. I don't associate them with my pregnancy though. Pregnancy was something I once did (and looking at pregnant photos, it feels like I did it years ago despite my babies being 7 weeks old), babies is something I am doing now, but the two things are in no way related
I am sure things will work out fine once your baby arrives. Enjoy pregnancy for what it is and leave bonding with the baby for when the baby arrives
Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy, the birth, and most of all with life with your new baby
spaceangel, I never felt bonded with either of my DC while I was pregnant with them, and especially with number 1 people kept asking if I was excited and I used to reply "oh yes very" but actually I wasn't really just felt I should say it!
But once they were born it was a different story it wasn't immediate with number 1 it did take a little while, she is now 3 and I am totally in love with her but like other people have said I dont associate either of them with my pregnancies.
So dont worry about it, just relax and try and enjoy getting to know your new baby
completely normal. just wait till they arrive. It can be instant or can take a few days, weeks or months, but it WILL happen.
For me it was the instant my dd was born, she looked at me, I looked at her and WHOOOOOSH! That was IT. Instant love - the biggest, most amazing love I have ever known... and it grows and grows every single day. Its amazing.