last minute freak out - is it just me?(9 Posts)
Today's the EDD for ds 2. Why am I suddenly so nervous about
a) labour (had an epidural last time, no real probs, no reason to feel nervous as such)
b) sleep deprivation - i know it didn't kill me the last time
c) sibling rivalry - i really wanted ds to have a little brother or sister - there'll be 2 years between them, he is an easy going toddler, good at sharing, easy to entertain, sweet natured, so no real reason for me to expect the worst right now
and yet i am absolutely crapping myself! did anyone else feel the same second time around? (or third, or fourth)
ps, point c is not supposed to sound like smug braggery about my amazing toddler btw!
I'm 8 weeks off giving birth but every so often I get myself into a mild panic- mostly about all fo the things that you have mentioned! I think it is normal to feel like this and it just helps to keep in mind that the reality is often far better than the idea! Good luck and wishing you a speedy, normal labour and a healthy baby.
Thanks TBMOM, much appreciated, and right back at you!
Your toddler sounds adorable. Lucky you. You might find there's little sibling rivalry for quite a while. I had the same gap with DC1 and DC2. But yes, I feel the same as you about DC3. I know the reality, and I think I am more nervous because I am pretty tired with this pg. And because I know what to expect. The thing is, our brains are wired to think more about the things that have been difficult/gone wrong. TBMON is right. It will be better in reality. At least that's what I keep telling myself. (And DH for that matter, 'cause he's even more like this than me!!)
I think our reactions are part of being a responsible parent, and taking those responsibilities seriously. (Hope this doesn't sound too - ya know).
No, I think you're right, Muffinmouse, I am expecting the worst and hopefully anything else will be a bonus.
Plus I have to remind myself that I will no longer be pregnant (massive bonus), will have a new baby and won't worry constantly about 'making a rod for my own back' like i did the last time. or maybe i will.
it's also the uncertainty of being so close to something that's goint to change everything again, but having no real idea of when it's going to happen. very frustrating!
I am 39+3 with DC2 and am worrying myself silly that this was a stupid idea. DS1 is 2yrs 8mths and is adorable; easy going, sleeps, happy, loves his mummy and daddy, not many meltdowns and I keep thinking that we had it so good this time round it surely can't happen twice.
I am worried about how I'll cope with 2, plus the lack of sleep and will DS1 cope with having a newborn around. I also feel really 'mumsy' and unattractive at the moment and generally very unattraactive and cut off from friends.
Also,worried if DH will be any use whats so ever or more interested in going to wet the baby's head and getting the xmas drinks flowing leaving me with 2 children at home and a hormonal wreck. He loves a drink and has not got his head round the fact that 2 pints = 2 pints not 7.
Sorry for long moan
I am 32+4 with twins and am 31 days away from my c section. I am crapping myself as we have no family help. Also DS (2.5) is a handful at the best of times and is a real mummy's boy so not sure how he will cope not being the centre of attention. I think that's my greatest worry.
bradyboo - i got my hair done last week when my mat leave started - that has helped a lot, in fact i can't stop looking at it. this was mostly because i know i won't be able to get it done for at least 3 months after. is there any chance you can get yourself something booked this week? nails, massage? some pre baby pampering?
my dh was fairly useless last time around, but has got better as ds has become more interactive, so will have to pick up anything toddler related when i'm pinned to the sofa bfing no 2. i am aware that i'm likely to hate him for about the next six months though, just have to trust that we'll get through it! it doesn't help that he's self employed, so no pat leave, and no predictable days that he'll be at home.
i am mostly hoping that the baby will 'bring the love' with him and that will put me on the high that will enable me to cope with anything else that gets thrown at me.....
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