Information please (and maybe some reassurance...)

[Prinpo]

OK, just (as in about an hour ago) found out I'm pregnant with DC3. Planned, very much wanted, been a long time coming (had 2 mcs last year and been trying for about 2.5 years in total).

I know the day I will have conceived as DC and I were away over half-term and so didn't see DH until we got back (2 weeks ago today).

Anyway, to cut to the chase, period was due on Monday, didn't turn up, on Tuesday late afternoon got what I thought was period and so had 3 glasses of wine that night to drown my sorrows. Come Wednesday morning period had come to a complete halt and no bleeding since so I did test today and it's positive.

I have always been so careful with all of my pregnancies and I could scream at myself for being so stupid. I'm worried about what harm I may have done to the baby and I just wondered if anyone could point me in the direction of good solid info. I feel as though I need to know the worst possible scenario before I can relax and enjoy what should be the most fantastic news.

Thanks in advance. Sorry if I sound like a mad bag of nerves.

[notnowbernard]

WHat exactly are you worried abut?

Congrats, btw

[phipps]

Congratulations on the baby .

I have no idea about drinking wine at this stage but lots of people drink when they don't know they are pregnant and the baby is fine.

If you are still worried I would ring your GP surgery. It will only take a minute and should reassure you.

[flamingpants]

Went on hens night and had a lot more than 3 glasses of wine before found out I was pregnant. That was the big one. But on top of that 3 weeks of general young and free drinking (weekends etc.) Found out I was pregnant at 5 weeks (bit of a surprise, albeit lovely).

DD on sofa 3, very bright, sparky. No development problems.

Relax and congratulations.

[Prinpo]

Having drunk so much alcohol when pregnant. I'm guessing it came to about 6-7 units.

[japhrimel]

Try not to worry. Implantation would barely have happened (the bleeding was probably an implantation bleed) so what was in your bloodstream wouldn't really be affecting the embryo yet anyway,

And it's one binge. It's repeated binges (more than 4 units in a go) that are really damaging. You'll be careful from now on.

[notnowbernard]

What the others said!

[wigglesrock]

You'll be fine, I never test until I'm a week late and during that week don't let myself believe I'm pregnant (had difficulty conceiving) so go out, eat all the "bad for baby foods", and have been known to have a sneaky smoke!! Am 26 weeks pregnant with my 3rd and absolutely over the moon, congratulations and good luck

[Prinpo]

OK, starting to unclench... thanks for words of reassurance.

[sarahscot]

I'm not claiming this is fact, but was told by a friend who is a GP. She said in France it is generally accepted that it's okay to drink in the first 6 weeks of pregnancy as the baby is still a yolk sac rather than a foetus.

It may or may not be true, but it made me feel better about drinking before I knew I was pg!

[preggers2]

i drank in the first two weeks before i realised i was pg, in fact i drank quite a lot. Then when i found out, i spent the rest of pg beating myself up about it. My ds is now 18 months and is perfect with no development issues. You have nothing to worry about, my mf told me to think of all those who got pg either on holiday or over xmas and the extended drinking they will have done before realising, she made me realise i was being silly (admittably still had niggling worry until i saw him!!!).

[gillykins2011]

I didn't know I was pregnant until I was 10 weeks blast time and drank a heck of a lot! It was right over Christmas so had more than the usual weekend drinks! My ds is fine - healthy, happy and v naughty and cheeky? He will only drink water tho, not even apple juice so perhaps I caused that......


It's only excessive drinking that they really worry about not the odd glass of wine. Take care and congrats.....

[deedee321]

Prinpo, am so delighted to hear your news, you were the first to congratulate me on the conception thread when I tested positive last May. That is fantastic :-))). Do not worry, I was very much the same in trying to time my alcohol consumption when ttc, but I think the timing of it is the least significant time, when it is just implanting. Don't let that spoil it for you. Congratulations, very happy news!

[mcfluffle]

Congratulations!!!!
You can stop worrying, the placenta hasn't developed yet (give it another week or 2)and therefore any alcohol consumed cannot reach your baby. Most women have a few drinks at this early stage before discovering they are pregnant, then go on to have a healthy baby.
Just try to relax and enjoy your very much wanted pregnancy

[8rubberduckies]

Hi Prinpo, I remember you from the buses, Congratulations! Nice to be in the pregnancy threads, isn't it?

I found out at 7-8 weeks with my first, and went on two massive drinking sessions before I found out (DS was unplanned). One of them was so massive (my mate's 40th) that I remember sneaking into bed about 10 minutes before dp's alarm went off for work . My son is fine .

I would never condone doing things that could possibly harm your baby once you know you're pregnant, and I think it's worth remembering that there is a risk of something going wrong if you abuse your body in some way during pregnancy, but it is a possibility, not a given. And I don't think a few glasses of wine on one occasion is that bad, I'm thinking more of women who smoke heavily / take drugs / binge drink regularly.

Enjoy your pregnancy! Your baby is very lucky to have such a caring Mummy...

[Prinpo]

Feeling a bit more sane now, thanks to your reassuring words and the hoots of laughter from 2 friends in RL when I told them of my concerns.

at all those familiar names. How's it going for you all? 8rubber, I didn't know you were pregnant (have been avoiding the buses for a while as it all got a bit much). That's fantastic news! Loopy, I remember you wanted either a boy or a girl (duh) - are you finding out at the scan? Have you found out yet? Hope everything's going well for you. deedee, lovely to 'see' you again. Hope everything's going well.

Christ, I'm going to start mwah mwahing in a moment . Still, it is lovely to see you all on here.

Think I'll lurk on the pregnancy threads for a while. I'm feeling very nervous after the mcs and I think it will take time for me to get properly excited.

Thanks again everyone for setting me right.

[8rubberduckies]

Ah Prinpo, I remember now you had some time off the buses, and look, it worked! I am only 8 weeks pg, so early days for me too, due in June. Good luck! x

[deedee321]

Have made it all the way to 32 weeks now and looking extremely rounded... We're expecting a little boy around 7th Jan, so excited!! Very very happy for you, enjoy your pregnancy and take good care of yourself! Hooray! :)

[Prinpo]

Lovely to hear everyone's news. Yes, I think getting off the buses perhaps helped me to relax a bit (and maybe got me to bed a bit earlier at night ).

8rubber, will keep everything crossed that things go smoothly for both of us in the first trimester. Loopy, will have a look at that thread - thanks. Sorry to hear you had a rough time - not sure what haematoma is. I know the name but that's about it. Will head off and google. In the meantime, sending pillows and cups of tea. Deedee, extremely rounded sounds fabulous! Hope you get to take it easy over Christmas. A boy - lovely news.

So, where does a tentatively excited pregnant lady go around here? Will try Loopy's thread suggestion but is there any such thing as pregnancy buses? Feeling ready to obsess again .