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Oh God, I'm so fed up with hyperemesis....I wish I'd never got pregnant.

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pipoca Fri 05-Nov-10 09:24:42

I don't. I want this baby but I feel so crap. I'm on metaclopramide and it's helping but I'm still being sick at least twice in the morning and feel sick (and exhausted) all day. Have a 2.7 yr old.
I just want it to stop. 12 weeks now so shouldn't be long as it stopped by about 16 weeks with Ds but the though of another 4 weeks of this living hell after already having suffered 5 weeks of it makes me want to cry.
I just can't fucking stand the constant nausea. I wish it was just the puking. I can't stand feeling like I'm going to puke constantly.
Sorry. Feeling sorry for myself today.

ilovesprouts Fri 05-Nov-10 09:28:19

i have not had it but my dd had really bad sickness most of the way through she had accupuncure !! a few times then it eased off a bit ,its worth it in the end hang in there

Icedlemonmuffin Fri 05-Nov-10 15:10:42

Go back to gp and talk about trying a different tablet. Metaclopramide worked for about about a week then ended up in hospital on a drip where they gave me cyclizine, now on one of these a day (I'm 29 weeks).

GretnaGirl Fri 05-Nov-10 16:52:52

I sympathise so much Pipoca, I'm 16 weeks and still have all day nausea and strugggle to make myself eat. Mine doesn't sound as bad as yours and I've been very down and exhausted. I've just had an hour of reflexology, I'm trying anything to make myself feel better. I'm sorry I have no answers for you, I just wanted to sympathise and say you are not alone.

sethstarkaddersmum Fri 05-Nov-10 16:56:57

lots of sympathy. It will all be worth it when your lovely baby is born. All you can do (apart from hopefully getting better meds) is keep going one day at a time (veteran of 3 HG pregancies, have three nice children to show for it)

catholicatheist Fri 05-Nov-10 17:03:03

I had terrible 24 hour constant nausea from week 4 (the day after my missed period I couldnt believe it) till week 17. I would cry was worse than being in pain as you cant have any relief from it and its debilitating. I will be absolutely dreading pregnancy next time around. I feel for you. Like the other poster said the ONLY thing you can do is get through one day at a time and know that it wont last forever..its fecking hard though! Good Luck. Ps Ice lollies were the only thing that ever slightly took the edge off it for me.

pipoca Fri 05-Nov-10 19:39:38

Feeling a bit better now, thanks for virtual hand stroking.
Live in Spain and metaclopramide is the ONLY med anyone will prescribe. There are no other meds.

pirateparty Fri 05-Nov-10 19:50:55

I can really relate to your constant nausea and how fed up it's making you feel. I am 10 weeks and have had it from 6 weeks and want to cry daily too and spend all day in bed - obviously I can't but it's what I'd do in preference to anything else right now!

It lasted to 18 weeks last time and as with you the idea of another 8 weeks of this is horrific - hoping it will be shorter (and not longer) this time. I know some people have it all the way through and I feel for them so much.

The only relief is sleeping so far - but I look at my gorgeous ds and know it will be worth it (hoping all goes well at 12 wk scan and the rest of the pregnancy of course)

I am wearing those acupuncture travel sickness bands and found they have made things a tiny bit better after a few days of wearing them all day.

BarbieLovesKen Fri 05-Nov-10 20:06:39

Sympatise so much Pipoca. I have it basically since 8dpo and am 11 weeks tomorrow. I've actually been known to burst into tears as I just cant cope with it for much longer.

Better still, my GP wont prescribe meds as although he has diagnosed hyperemisis, he doesnt believe in any drugs during pregnancy hmm Im going out of my mind. He said I might have to do the odd stint in hospital on a drip hmm

gillykins2011 Fri 05-Nov-10 20:18:17

I am with you pipoca. I am only 8 weeks and been puking and feeling generally awful for 2.5 weeks and the thought of feeling like this for another 4 weeks makes me feel down so I am trying to focus on those very few hours where I feel reasonable. I just want to spend all day in bed as at least then I can generally stop myself being sick by deep breathing until I need a wee.....

I end up having weird conversations with myself around feeling better for an hour after being sick or just hating the fact of being sick and having a sore throat from afterwards from heaving so hard.

Somebody on mumsnet suggested getting some fresh air and as little as I feel like it does seem to help. Liqurorice all sorts or jelly babies have also been quite useful and are not too gross on their return visit!

But my best tip ismkeep looking at the growth charts and reminding yourself that you probably grew a
tongue last week or maybe even some fingers and that makes it all worthwhile. Mind you I am never ever doing this again !!!

flippyfloppy Fri 05-Nov-10 20:23:47

Hi there, I would second acupuncture. I had hyperemisis for the duration of my first pregnancy, so feel your pain. The same symptoms started to kick in in week 5 of this pregnancy. I started to see an acupuncturist in week 6, first of all weekly then twice a week for the last two weeks I am now in my eleventh week and touch wood, I am seeing results. I have now what I imagine would be "normal" morning sickness, and slight nausea when I go too long without food, but nothing like the debilitating condition which I had previously. Good Luck xxx

sethstarkaddersmum Fri 05-Nov-10 20:30:22

yes fresh air does help IME - I felt better when I was camping (though then you get people thinking 'she can't be really ill if she's ill enough to go camping').

pipoca Fri 05-Nov-10 20:30:30

Barbie, your doctor sounds like an evil bastard can't you see another?

sethstarkaddersmum Fri 05-Nov-10 20:33:34

well enough to go camping I mean.

Barbie - you need a different GP. Your GP is an idiot. There is an NHS protocol on how to treat HG and it involves anti-emetics, NOT letting people get so sick they have to be rehydrated in hospital; if you do that it just becomes a cycle of going in and out of hospital.

it is perfectly fine to ring up your practice for an appointment and specify that you want to see a different GP. People do it all the time.

stripeybumpsmum Fri 05-Nov-10 20:40:40

Many sympathies. I know that feeling of the brief 'relief' on throwing up. 2 HG pregnancies and early days for third - 1st pg ended up in hosptal a few times, second better managed. Sick this time (11+4) but 'normal' sickness rather than HG, if that makes sense. Cyclazine worked for me, but if that is not an option, some other thoughts of things I've learnt that might help off some relief:

1. You have to abandon the idea of 'normal mealtimes' and eat (even if you don't feel like it) when you can - hunger will make you worse. Even if it means you are only eating a small amount in the two hours a day when you feel slighly better, this will help get you through the worst of the next day.

2. Abandon any hope of a sensible diet. Eat what you can, when you can. In hosp, they 'prescibed' full fat coke and salted crisps (Kettle chips especially). I don't know why, but it does seem to work - or has done for me.

3. Ditch any guilt about baby's nutrition - they are basically little parasites, they will deplete your body before they really suffer.

4. Try the smallest amount of toothpaste (pref baking soda type)with the smallest head of toothbrush you can find - the saliva reaction in brushing your teeth can make nausea worse.

5. If you are sick, don't brush you teeth straight after - as well as damaging enamel, it makes you more sick

6. You might benefit from drinking foods either very cold (hence the ice lollies someone suggested) or really hot - don't know why, but again seemed to work. I just ate ice a lot.

7. This time around when I feel sick, the smell of a cut lemon or apple seems to help - a 'clean smell' if that makes sense

8. Think outside the box - when I was really ill with DS, the only relief I felt was lying on a cold bathroom floor, so if I really needed to, I napped there. You might find you feel better being really cold.

9. Difficult with a toddler I know, but you need to avoid getting too tired as this definitely has an impact. Can you enlist some help to give you time to get an hour's sleep mid afternoon?

10. You have to be honest with people and avoid situations that you know make you worse. For me the list was long: any smokers, anyone drinking, strong perfume, cooking smells, petrol. I kept a handerkerchief with me at all times that had a 'safe' soap smell - so I could have a quick sniff if I needed to focus! I've heard other people say the smell (but not taste) of polos helped, and even Vicks vapour!

It is miserable, but it does pass. Don't build your hopes up to getting to a magical 12/15/20 weeks or whatever when it will stop - much harder when you miss those deadlines. Reality is, the sickness may well just disappear inexplicably almost overnight, or will ease. Either way, easier to cope I found if you can 'manage' the worst of it.
HTH, good luck. If nothing does help, please come back on and we will offer support (and not shout at you for punching anyone who offers you a ginger biscuit).

sethstarkaddersmum Fri 05-Nov-10 20:54:57

in fact we will go and punch them for you if you like smile

msbossy Fri 05-Nov-10 21:08:18

LOL @ stripey for the ginger biscuit comment! MIL was always pushing me to eat one with a cup of tea despite boaking at the thought of either.

I second the ice lolly suggestion. Cold but sugary enough to keep you going.

sethstarkaddersmum Fri 05-Nov-10 21:20:19

yeah, re ginger biscuits, the following conversation took place:

Me: I'm desperate, I haven't been able to keep down anything for a week, and when I say anything, I mean not even sips of water
GP: have you tried ginger biscuits?


pirateparty Fri 05-Nov-10 21:20:38

Bizarrely I have found cold cucumber one of the few things I can stomach - maybe the 'refreshing' taste thing stripey suggested.

smaych Fri 05-Nov-10 21:21:42

I hear you on this, so so much. I'm 16 weeks and this pregnancy has been the worst thing I've ever been through, as much as I want and love my baby a lot.

Hyperemesis is totally devastating. The constant nausea - no one seems to understand how totally debillitating it is.

You are definitely not alone in feeling like this. And I want to thank you for posting this and being so honest about it, because it is so validating for me to read that there are other women who don't have a wonderful glowing time during their pregnancies, other women who are so sick that a part of them wishes they'd never done this. We all have that survival instinct on some level.

gateacre1 Fri 05-Nov-10 21:22:48

I had accupuncture once a week and it helped a lot and cyclizine 3 times a day
hope you feel better soon, mine tailed off around 22 weeks but I still have the odd morning of vomiting ( 30 weeks now)

I lived on white bread, salt and vinegar crisps

The difference in how I feel now is amazing
hope it gets better for you soon

CardyMow Fri 05-Nov-10 23:31:40

I am on my 4th HG pregnancy. I'm 29+5, and GP has refused to prescribe any more metaclopramide since 28 weeks. Funily enough, I started puking 4-8 times a day as soon as I ran out. hmm. He won't give any more unless I'm ++for ketones. the only reason I'm not is because I am drinking diyoralite instead of plain water! I am eating utter crap junk food, especially crisps (which I can't stand normally), and am crunching ice cubes. 10 weeks and 2 days left of puking. And it's funny, but I know from experience that within 20 minutes of delivery, I'll be scarfing down toast, and choccie bars (been unable to eat any chocolate since week 5). ANd even disgusting hospital food will taste like manna from heaven and actually stay down. Labour is worth the efort as it means the sickness stops! NEVER AGAIN mind you!

pipoca Sun 07-Nov-10 09:15:08

Great advice stripeybumpsmum, thank you. I will read and re read. I do wish the weeks away and I AM clining on to the hope that it'll stop at the same time as before or sooner. i know it's a bad idea in case it goes on longer but I can't help it.
Been having a big glass of water when I get up as it seems to provoke a puke and water is easier to vom on than nothing. Still feel queasy and usually have another puke later but seems to help a little to get the first over and done with.
12 weeks today.

pipoca Sun 07-Nov-10 09:18:11

actually I've found sucking fruit flavoured boiled sweets helps a little.

Faaamily Sun 07-Nov-10 09:21:04

You poor thing. I had hyperemesis with my second baby. Lasted for 22 weeks and then vanished overnight. But while I had it, it was a living hell. I had lost 20 lbs by the time I was 20 weeks pregnant, and had to be hospitalised and put on a drip at one stage.

Nothing worked for me. I just had to ride it out. I really hope it goes for you soon. No advice (sorry) but heartfelt sympathies and hugs x

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