Hello, I really need some help with the situation that I am in. Four months ago I was physically asaulted resulting in significant damage to my eye. I was totaly innocent to this asault and had to recieve surgery to rebuild bones etc. This was not totally successful and I have been left with a change in appearance, which has left me quite depressed I think. I recently saw a surgeon who can operate upon me to restore a significant amount of my appearance and vision. I was due for the operation but the day before I found out I was pregnant and so I could not have it. I was so desperate to be repaired and to feel and look like myself again and so this was really traumatic. I have since found it impossible to feel happy about the pregnancy as I just wanted the operation so much. My partner was thrilled about the news as we had been trying for a baby prior to this. I am now 12 weeks and going through all the motions in a daze. Although he has been great our relationship has suffered with my response to this (I am 30 and it will be my first baby) as I have pulled away into my wn little world. I considered a termination but he really wants it and i don't think this is something I can decide to do. I can have the operation after the baby is born. But I just can't feel happy about it right now. I don't think I know my own feelings and i just keep thinking that having a baby can't ever be a bad decision surely, whereas if I chose to terminate it I could really regret it. I always thought I would be so happy when I got pregnant but I just feel lost and scared and can't take my focus away from the missed surgery and feeling scared waiting for the future surgery. I'd really appreciate anyone who can offer me support or advice. Thanks :)
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nello · 04/09/2010 00:47
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