Not even sure anyone can help with any of this and there are lots of things jumbled in together but other people's opinions often help me get things straight in my head..
I'm 8+5 and am generally constantly worrying about things being wrong. I've had very intermittent symptoms which seems to go about a week ago but then I've been ill with terrible diarrhea since Sunday (finally getting a bit better) and I can't tell what's illness and what's pregnancy symptoms. I've also read that diarrhea can cause miscarriage so basically I just spend my whole time checking in the toilet to see whether I am bleeding and panicking that something is wrong.
DP is really excited about me being pregnant and keeps smiling and rubbing my tummy and this makes me want to just move away and I keep saying that I don't feel like that, we don't even know there's anything in there.. and then I feel horrible for being a spoilsport. He went through a miscarriage with his wife about 18 years ago and I know what a devastating effect that had on him so I feel horrible being so negative all the time but I think he's being overly optimistic and he thinks I am just worrying about nothing and basically we're in very different places!
Anyway, as a result I'd like to have an early scan, and he has agreed this is a good idea 'even though there's nothing wrong, to stop me worrying'. I know he means to be helpful saying this, and he's being positive but it just makes me feel worse.
So we've agreed that's what we're going to do and now we're deciding when. He thinks this weekend is a good idea but we have his two step boys at weekends and I can't bear the thought of finding out bad news while they are here as I think it will make it harder. They don't know that I'm pregnant yet and I don't want to tell them till 12 weeks incase anything goes wrong. DP says that I am under-estimating them and if we get bad news then we just explain the situation to them. I hate this idea, and hate the idea of them being around when trying to deal with that. DP is also getting frustrated at not telling them but I really don't want to yet.
I could go in work time but I've just been off on holiday and was meant to be back today but am sick due to tummy bug.
Can anyone help me unravel the cotton-wool here?!
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Early scans/difference experience to partner and step-kids all in one question! LONG!
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lucielooo · 01/09/2010 15:47
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