pregnancy number 4 ! Getting a bit defensive already

[swampmonster]

Hi I have just found out I am pg with baby number 4 and am being quite hormonal and 'short' with those around me already.I get a bit panicky about everyone mucking in a bit and to just depending on me all the time for everything,is this right? I can't find the right calm words to say to people to make them see that for just a bit I would like them to give me the support I need.My nature means that I tend to be leant on a little,I end up doing the childcare,cooking etc within the family even though it isn't my immediate family usually around.I just for the next few weeks while the news settles with me & I can get the other 3 children off to school I would like some good old fashioned TLC.I will come out the other side fine then.

[getstuffed]

Congrats!

One thing I have learnt is that mums are ''it'' and as long and mums are around and doing ''it'' no one else will be even remotely arsed, they'll look up from the sofa, smile and let you carry on. Partners, mothers, sisters, fathers, children, aunties, the whole bloody lot, no matter how helpful they think they are! It's annoying and yes it stresses even the best of us out, normal, normal.

Give yourself a break if no one else will, lay off!!! so what if beds don't get made and dishes aren't done straight away, remember, you can say no! it's allowed.

x

[ScarecrowSally]

Congratulations!
How old are your other 3?
I'm in the same boat as you, but quickly realised that no-one was expecting me to do everything, I just had high expectations of what I should be doing, and because it has been a while since my last baby, I'd completeley forgotton how knackered being PG makes you!
Take it easy for a while :)

(Save your defensiveness for the "YOU'RE MAD!!!" comments that you'll get when you tell everyone )

[swampmonster]

Hi my others are 6,4 & 2 and yes i am standing there watching children's TV and ironing a huge pile of ironing whilst my dh is out attending to his male 'hobby',I have text him to ask for chocolate on his way home in a minute-(I used to ask for wine!) Thank you for posts.I am so pleased to be pg, only early days again but I just wanted everyone to go a bit easy on me for a bit-I lost a baby only 4 weeks ago so lucky,yes to fall again right away but also nervous as it could happen again!Think once school hols are over will be a bit easier.I do have high expectations of what I should be doing you are right but I firmly believe that I must keep on top or else I worry that I couldn't regain the ship if I let things go!When are you due and how old are your children scarecrowsally?

[yesway]

My fourth is now 7 weeks old. I ended up going away with my parents and siblings for a week when I was 6 months pregnant along with my then 18mo ds1, 3yo dd2 and 5yo dd1. Dh didn't come. None of my family once picked up my 18mo. I ended up putting the TV on so I could get on with cooking / packing etc as no-one else would even babysit for 30mins. I really regret not being more up front about it at the time and bossing them around (that is what it would have taken to get them to do anything).

Ultimately they were oblivious. I had a tiny bump that was also too oblivious and I ended up exhausted and crotchety.

So- speak up!