Why has he started wetting himself again

[frightstick]

DS1 is 3.5 has been potty trained for a year. He had a brief relapse in April when DS2 was born but other than that, has had few setbacks.

However recently he has started wetting himself again, often several times a day. If I ask him why he says he hasn't, he has just spilt his drink. Or he says he forgot. He would be quite happy to stay in his wet things for hours if I were to let him.

He is still in pullups at night. He was dry every morning at the beginning of the year but I didn't take him out of them as DS2 had just been born and I couldn't cope with anything else to wake me up. Now they are soaking every morning.

Could this be why he is forgetting to go to the loo in the day? Or is he just being lazy?

What to do? I know he can do it, he just won't.

[kcartyparty]

When did DS1 start nursery? Has it been recently.

If it has you mind this is the reason.

If he hasn't, it may just be lazyness. Too busy with his playing to go for wee. Lots of little ones go through this.

You need to rule out stress first then go for the star chart rewards.

Pop onto my profile and follow a thread from there with the same problem

good luck

[LilyBolero]

Might be worth ruling out a UTI - a GP will do a quick urine test. But it's probably just a phase. But I would get him checked, as UTIs can be nasty if untreated.

[Poohbearsmom]

Cud u try lettin him use the 'big' toilet? Make it a big deal tell him he's a big boy now and can use the toilet like daddy/ mommie etc and do the clappin and cheerin again every time he uses it. Do this for a couple of days and u could find a huge improvement, it worked for me when my 3 yr old had a relapse. Good luck

[Poohbearsmom]

Uh, also i was told never to ask them why they had the accident jus say sumit like 'o thats ok, that cud happen to any little boy, ur still learnin and next time we'l try really hard to get there on time together etc u do all the talkin and afirm that next time it wont happen cause ye will try really hard together... Hope that helps a bit

[frightstick]

No I don't think it's stress.

He has recently started at a childminder but it is only for 2 hours a week so it's not a big change.

He already has a sticker chart for bedtime and I'm thinking of adding a star for dry days as well but it seems wrong somehow to start giving him stars for something he was doing without them iyswim.

I may be being uncharitable towards him (it's been a long day) but it seems almost like defiance more than anything else.

[kcartyparty]

The best you can do is just be patient. If he continues to wet, and you feel it is defiance, then try a little grounding.

'Mummy knows you can use the toilet, and it is not acceptable for you to keep wetting in your pants. If you wet again mummy will have to take away your......'

But before going down this road please work out when he started wetting,. If it was around the time of starting with the childminder.. there may be a connection.

He may only be there for a couple of hours a week, but to a small child it is still a change in his life.

Keep up with the reward chart.