Ds3 is showing similar signs. I am reluctant to officially train him yet but we are doing some "background training". Things like sitting him on the loo when he asks or when he comes with me. Handwashing afterwards. He won't yet sit on the potty or toilet with no nappy on which is why I am nt officially starting yet
can say food and milk in Makaton but often confuses the two. She can't talk at all, dosen't say a word so I think taking her out for knickers would go completely over her head. she'll pick them up and throw them on the floor
Sounds exactly like DD - nursery said to us when she was 21months that they thought she was ready. She was in a room with slightly older kids and was following them to the potty and trying to go, plus telling us that she had done a poo/wanting her nappy changed etc. She was very verbal so could explain exactly what was happening. We gave it a try for a few days, but it caused distress for her and us, as she couldn't get to the potty quickly enough for wees (although we took her loads of times - and then she would we on the floor 5 mins later.)
We made a decision to stop, put her in pull=ups so she could access a potty if she wanted to and waited another 2/3 months (until just before her 2nd birthday I think) and then tried again - and that was it. She completely 'got it' for both night and day, and since then (she is now 3.2) we have literally had about 5/6 accidents day and night. She was obviously not ready before, and it didn't seem to cause a major problem by takig the pressure off, and then returning to the process later.
I did it in a gentle way with ds around the same age i.e. I put him in a pull up so it was easy to get up and down and took him regularly to the toilet/potty. When he was telling me he needed the toilet while wearing the pull up I put him into pants. He was out of nappies by the age of 2 and we didnt have hundreds of accidents as we didnt go straight to pants.