Really struggling with this, I don't know what to do. I'm not really sure where to begin it's quite a long story.
Bought dd a Peppa Pig potty when she was 2 and a half, she was happy to sit on it fully clothed but cried and screamed when we talked about what it's for and how to use it etc. I kept putting it off and waiting for the day she would want to use it, since all the things I had read about potty training said when your child is ready to potty train they will want to, but the day never came.
Then when she was 3 and a half I decided the day wasn't arriving so I would just go for it and see what happened. She cried and screamed all day for 3 days, had maybe one or two wees in the potty, when I made her stay there despite the crying, and waiting for her bedtime nappy to poo. The health Visitor said to keep going, that's the only advice she gave. I gave up, the day long tantrums were just too much, I know this was probably a mistake but she was so miserable and everyone else in the house was too.
So now she's recently turned 4, she's starting school in September and she has her taster days in 2 weeks so I'm trying again. We're bypassing the potty this time and bought a toilet seat thing so she wasn't scared of falling in. We started on Saturday morning so we're on day 5 now. Everyday has been the same, she holds everything in and when I put her on the toilet she repeatedly says she doesn't need to go and she wants to get off and nothing ever comes. Last night we got the closest to anything happening, just before bedtime (just before bedtime nappy and pjs on) she said she needed a wee, I said okay let's go, we went upstairs, got on the toilet, she said she didn't need it she wanted to get off. She cried and screamed for 10 minutes on the toilet until she came back downstairs. Same again 10 minutes later when I could see she needed it. Eventually it got to bedtime so she had her nappy on and used it straight away and was calm and happy again.
So she's holding everything in for about 11 hours everyday and then using her nappy as soon as she can. She's miserable, I'm miserable. She won't answer me if I ask why she doesn't want to do it, if pushed she'll say she's scared but won't tell me what of.
Wow that was a long story, has anyone else had a similar experience?
We've tried stickers, charts, chocolate buttons, praise, leaving her to do it in private so not 'watching' she would rather have none of those things and just wear a nappy so they haven't helped
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Imgettingcheesefries · 26/06/2019 14:37
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