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Starting toilet/potty training 2.5 year old boy

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Cupcakes1234 Tue 09-Apr-19 15:09:49

Hi all,

Just after some advice. During the summer last year my son was 18 months and we just brought a potty as he was naked pretty much the whole summer and did really well with weeing and pooing on the potty! It all changed when autumn hit and he was dressed it just didn't work.

However he's 2 and a half this month and I think we are ready for it again now properly. We've brought him pants (tried to get him to choose his own but just wanted to line them all up in the shop 🤦🏼‍♀️). We've also brought a paw patrol toilet seat and step which he did sit on last night after he saw me wee he said it was "my turn" but he didn't do anything.

We officially want to start on Saturday as I know we won't have anything on during the weekend and the week after so thought it would be a good time. Question is, I will be using pants on him during the day but what do I do about night time? Seems a bit counter productive to put a nappy back on him at night but I definitely don't think we are ready for night time training as he still likes some milk before bed. I'm a bit stumped as to what to do for nighttime. Unless I do it both in one hit but I don't want to overwhelm him and take away his milk before bed as it does help him settle before bed.

I was also just hoping to use the toilet but is worth getting a potty too? I don't want to cause any issues with him using the toilet if he's used to the potty. I think he will happily use the toilet but don't want the potty just there as obviously the aim is to be using the toilet.

I've brought a sticker chat, stickers, paw patrol chocolate lolly's, and some little cars (his favourite!) as treats if he uses the toilet.

Any advice we I'm totally clueless and it's a bit daunting for us lol.

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GoingRetroMN Tue 09-Apr-19 15:13:06

Is he showing any awareness of needing to wee/poo? How do you know he is definitely ready?

Cupcakes1234 Tue 09-Apr-19 15:18:40

He says wee wee when he's done one and will take his nappy off by himself if I don't change it straight away. He's always been the same ever since he was a baby (just hates being dirty!). And when we sees me go to the toilet he also wants to use it. As I said we've brought him a toilet seat to use and has sat on a couple of times saying "my turn now" but is yet to wee on it but he's still in pull ups at the moment. I don't want to try pants until I can give full commitment to it when I haven't got anywhere to go.

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Cupcakes1234 Tue 09-Apr-19 15:56:52

He's just done a wee on the toilet with his toilet seat. Again he saw me go and said "my turn" so just put him on and actually had a wee!!!

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GoingRetroMN Tue 09-Apr-19 16:34:13

Great. Go for it then 🙂 It won’t instant (all of mine were totally different in how long it took and what age they were) and there will be accidents and memory lapses, but this time next year it’ll be more than over. You can do it.

teaandbiscuitsforme Thu 11-Apr-19 20:43:15

I'll be starting with my DS on Saturday. We used the Oh Crap book with my DD and it was relatively easy so we'll be giving those ideas a go again this time. I'd highly recommend reading it.

Thesearmsofmine Thu 11-Apr-19 20:48:37

It sounds like he ready to go for it during the day if he is wanting a turn etc. Nighttime is different, it isn’t about training it’s a hormonal release so nappy on at night for now until he is consistently dry in the mornings, My boys trainers at 2.5 and 3 but both were in night time pull ups until 5.

twinnywinny14 Thu 11-Apr-19 20:59:13

Agree with nappy for nighttime and only consider doing that once he is waking with a dry nappy in the morning. During day time sounds like you are ready to start. Lots of pants and easy to get off trousers, tracksuit bottoms or similar will do. Put him on every half an hour and give him a minute or so to go. If he does then great and lots of praise, if not then remind him ‘wee wee on the toilet later’ and try again half an hour later. Keep tabs on when he goes and you will start to see a pattern. You will know after a few says whether you are getting there or not! Good luck!

Cupcakes1234 Sat 13-Apr-19 09:37:18

Thank you everyone! We've started today and we've already had 3 accidents in his pants but I'm going to now just leave him naked from the bottom half and see if that changes anything. I'm really hopeful but I can't help but feel like we are off to a bad start already

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MrsPatrickDempsey Sat 13-Apr-19 09:48:14

My son was reliably clean and dry when naked but could not master it wearing pants for a few months so he went commando for a while! Seems to be a common thing.....

Cupcakes1234 Sat 13-Apr-19 10:27:14

We've had a wee on the toilet so must be the pants

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teaandbiscuitsforme Sat 13-Apr-19 13:09:51

We haven't started because DS has got a sickness bug - hopefully Monday!

Don't put pants on yet, it can be really confusing on them. Go from bare bottom to loose bottoms (joggers/PJs) then introduce pants in a few weeks when he's got it and you've broken the link with the nappy.

ineedaholidaynow Sat 13-Apr-19 13:17:37

Agree with others that night-time is different.

DS was potty trained during the day about that same age as your DS but he took a lot longer at night. He was a very deep sleeper and just didn't wake up when he did a wee. Think it was another year before he started to have dry nights and then it was still a bit hit and miss.

A friend's DS who was potty trained a lot earlier than our DS was still wetting the bed until he was about 7

pastabest Sat 13-Apr-19 13:25:45

Get the 'Oh Crap!' book it's great. I had my 2y1mo trained within a week using that method - the Easter bank holiday would be a great time to really boss it. She's still in nappies at night just in case, but she's dry about 90% of the time in the morning.

One thing it does say is to avoid bribes/treats because it causes issues further down the line.

Cupcakes1234 Mon 15-Apr-19 08:10:56

Just thought I'd do a little update. So we are on day 3 now. He's happy to wee and poo on the toilet so far. Doesn't like being asked though and just always says no if I ask him if he needs a wee but yesterday he started to tell us he needed to go. Woke up this morning to a completely dry nappy and he did a big wee on the toilet! I'm sure it's probably a bit of a fluke but he's doing an amazing job. Only 1 accident yesterday about 5 minutes after getting him dressed but dry all day otherwise. Even managed a trip to the shops for some groceries!!

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teaandbiscuitsforme Mon 15-Apr-19 08:24:26

Sounds like it's going very well! One tip from Oh Crap is not to ask if they need to wee - phrase it as a statement. 'It's time to wee. Let's go.' Then if you want them to start self-initiating, just say 'the potty's right there if you need a wee' and leave them a minute.

We started with DS yesterday. So far so good so I hope it continues today!

Cupcakes1234 Mon 15-Apr-19 11:38:48

Ah that's a good idea. Thanks for that tip! I'll try that. We aren't using a potty though, just the toilet so I think he'll continue to need some help onto it for now but I'm impressed with him so far. It's still early days. Glad yours is going well too!

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FormerlyFrikadela01 Tue 16-Apr-19 09:19:04

Sounds like you're doing great.
We started yesterday. DS is 3 in june and for months has used the potty without prompting if he is naked.... put a pair of pants on and its a different matter. We havent had anything in the potty yet but I knowing takes time. There just seems to be a mental block once the pants are on.

teaandbiscuitsforme Tue 16-Apr-19 10:05:36

Frik Try trousers but no pants. Underwear can confuse them because it's a tight feeling like a nappy. Introduce pants when he's secure with trousers.

Cupcakes1234 Tue 16-Apr-19 12:11:51

I've explained to my little boy that nappies are gone and these are his big boy pants and said he needs to keep them dry and told him all about children and adults he knows who all wear pants but do their wee wee's on the toilet. (We are using the toilet rather than potty). Seems to work but we did have a couple of accidents yesterday but once he again he stayed dry through the night and touch wood, no accidents today and has told me when he wants to go

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