Day 1 of “oh crap”. DD is naked from waist down. She held her wee, very calmly, this morning for 3 hours (we have a camel it seems). Then when she trotted to a corner out it came in 2 seconds flat. Didn’t get her to the potty. We are now 4 wees later (she def has control) and each wee seems to be done as she is leaving the room/ going to a corner/ generally out of sight. No wees in the living room or on our laps/sofa etc. We have missed every sodding wee!!! She tends to do massive short bursts and I can’t bloody get there!
The book insists there are signs. But what about if the sign is they edge out of the room? When I follow her with the potty she changes her mind.
So, I have learnt that a) she can control her bladder and b) she seems to need privacy.
I now have the potty in the hallway and each time she wees on the floor I have pointed and told her that it needs to go in the potty. She is 33months. I think she is ready because she tells me when the nappy is dirty, has been taking her nappy off at the childminder around other potty trained children to copy and she understands us.
I know it is only day 1 but the way the book reads we should be at least getting her to a potty in time!
The last wee, she went to the potty in the hall and I pretended not to look. She walked over to it, pointed then shut the door and pissed on the floor 
So I feel it isn’t behaviour not a lack of understanding. She isn’t a girl that likes change so I knew this would be an effort.
Any encouragement? She is getting tired and I’m getting ratty. We have cabin fever. I’m not giving up yet I’m just finding it hard 
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Womblewobble · 02/04/2018 16:38
Totally agree she knows what she is doing! By 5pm she was just in tears and exhausted and begging for bedtime. She is now fast asleep.
I’m definitely not giving in. I will certainly try your first suggestion tomorrow. If she continues to ignore me then I will be putting her on the potty every 30mins and keeping her there. Or being stern with her. Argh! Never know what is for the best! Thanks for the input though 
I don't have any advice I'm afraid but I'm just sending hugs because I'm in a similar situation and finding it tough!
DD1 is also 33mths and trying to do Oh Crap book with her. Have done 3 naked days and seen improvement but it's very up and down. I'm looking for the signs but sometimes she will be sat on the sofa or on the floor so I can't see and by the time I realise she's weeing and I've sat her on the potty, she's stopped.
When she is stood up and I've noticed her crossing her legs, I suggest she sits on her potty which most of the time she will, but a wee won't come straight away, it will come after ages sitting there which is good because it saves clearing up but the book advises against randomly sitting and waiting on the potty because they don't make the connection between feeling the need to go and therefore sitting on the potty, so they don't always realise they've done it. However, when this happened this pm, she did look down into the potty in amazement when the wee came out so I'm taking that as a positive step.
Like your DD, by the end of the day she has been cranky and so tired, she actually asked to go to bed at 6:30 tonight, unheard of!
I'm going to try and persevere, tomorrow is another day. Have whatever you need to get you through the day (for me it was an Easter egg) and I hope it gets better for you 
I've been doing the same with DD this weekend. I've begun to learn her tactics; she will try and engineer a game of hide and seek, or make me pretend to sleep. Then she will trot off to the dining room and piss all over the floor 
My way of solving this probably isn't Oh Crap! sanctioned, but it's worked. Whenever she looks like she's edging into the other room, I ask her if she needs a wee-wee. Sometimes she says yes and will come and sit on the potty. Most of the time she says no and continues to edge. So then I just say 'Well, if you don't need a wee wee, that's okay, but if you go in their and wee on the floor mummy will be cross'. She generally accepts this (without anxiety or stress) and will come and sit on the potty. I then leave the room and she wees.
It's not perfect, she peed on the sofa today, but it seems to not stress her out, even though it sounds harsh. She's a lot easier to get sat down for a poo, perhaps because the urge is different. She generally tenses up and looks worried and says I need a poo and I say 'well go and sit on the potty then' and she does.
Ah thanks so much all! God reading those made me feel better 
ok so I’m awake with renewed energy! Today I won’t hover unless she begins to edge out of the room. I’m also going to block off the little spaces in the living room that she can wee in (like having a cat isn’t it!) so that it is more obvious to me when she is needing to go.
When I see her edging off I will TELL her she is sitting on the potty for a wee and I will try reading a book to her. I know from yesterday that if I’m too chilled and leave her to have privacy to wee she will just jump up too quickly. Although I will give her a chance to prove me wrong 😀
I’m also going to be stern about not pissing on the floor. She is plenty old enough to get this so I have no fear of scarring her for life. I also know from yesterday that the tireder she is the more accidents happen so I’m not going to encourage lots of drink today. Think it caught up with her by the afternoon!
Wish me luck, she is too old for me not to do this. She IS ready and it DOES need doing 
Ok did well all morning. No wee but she kept leaving the room. Every time I popped her on the potty and told her to stay there then I left to give privacy (secretly spying on her of course). The good news is she understood I meant business about staying on the potty for a time. So that was encouraging. No wee though.
Then at midday she got off the potty and trotted round the room and, of course, had an accident straight away 
The difference this time was she actually looked down and said “Mummy!” As if she realised it shouldn’t be happening there. I was pretty cross. I told her that this is what the potty is for and that I wasn’t happy that she had weed on the floor.
Then I put her down for a nap as I can’t face her grizzling at me all afternoon and tonnes of wee because she is tired. So still no success. Will get her up soon and hopefully her nap will help her to keep with it!
Yay well done her, mine held it in for ages today too, 6 hours! Only had 3 wees today so far, 2 that started on sofa/playmat and finished on potty, and one like you where I just happened to have her sat on the potty. Yes goes against the book but I suppose it gets her used to it and if she's on the potty, I'm safe to take my eyes off her for a few mins
Phoenix I love the smiley face idea, I've decided to let her stick a Thomas the tank sticker (her fave) on her potty when she wees to decorate it
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Annnnnnd we were doing so well but now she is back to just weeing on the floor.
I’ve noticed that the look of panic is on her face when she does it but when she only does 2wees a day it is really hard to get any practise in! I’m not going to give her tonnes to drink as that really backfired last time.
So the oh crap method hasn’t worked for me. I fail to see how you can quickly potty train a child who only does 2/3 wees a day. Perhaps I’m just missing something 
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