Help please!

[Helveticas]

My daughter was 2 in September and we are just starting to try and get her out of nappies. For a while she has gone to her potty to do a wee with the nappy on. She will stop what she's doing - eating, playing etc - and say "I just need to do a wee". Go to the potty and do it. If she's elsewhere she goes off to a private place to do it. Each time I've suggested knickers she has said no, she doesn't want to do it. She kicks and screams if I try to dress her in them.

We went on holiday last week and agreed to keep her in nappies for that but that, this week, would be her first week with knickers. We decided to just say "no more nappies" and stick to it. However, she is now limiting her drink because she knows it makes her wee. She waits and waits, refuses to even try on the potty and then eventually dances around and wees in her clothes. In nappies, she took herself to the potty with no intervention from me at all. What has gone so wrong?

I probably left it too late didn't I? What the hell do I do?!

[Helveticas]

Anyone?

[CaptainKirkssparetupee]

Nappies back on but put undies over the top, you can then add in the new step of pulling pants down.
After she is doing that consistently either cut a hole in the nappy and have her wee through it, or buy a size two small and pretend she has grown out of nappies forever.

[teaandbiscuitsforme]

Don't put knickers on. Leave her for a few weeks with loose bottoms that she can easily push down. She obviously knows what's going on so IMO, you should go for it- so no more nappies unless she's asleep.

I'd really recommend reading Oh Crap if you want some guidance. It's a great book.

[HSMMaCM]

You could try putting a nappy in the potty, to see if she'd wee on that?

[Bringonspring]

I would just leave it for a couple of months and start again.

[Helveticas]

Thanks for opinions it's very helpful. We are having our second baby in August and I'm anxious to get it done before then. Also the health visitor told me not to worry at her 2 year check but that if she was still in them at 3, that's when they'd worry.

I think my anxiety about it might be picked up by her as I just don't understand how it will ever work if I'm honest! I know everyone gets through it in the end but I feel like it's something I just can't do.

I might try no knickers or nappy then and possibly a nappy in the potty...we like to go out and spend days out a lot. I take it we just don't do that until she's mastered it?

Thanks again

[teaandbiscuitsforme]

OP I really would suggest reading Oh Crap (kindle and other downloads!) as it will give you a structure and a plan. And you can see how quickly you will be able to get back to normal life.

You will need to spend a few days close to home (not necessarily trapped indoors after day 1!) but it's quick. Days out are fine, you just need to plan (carry a potty/pottete thing if you're going to be hiking or something). My DD trained at 22mo and we wee back to normal life within 5/6 days, albeit making small changes to allow for toilet trips or potty stops if we were out without toilets.

IMO I wouldn't stop nappies and put a nappy in the potty - could be mixed messages. But the no knicker thing really helps as you take away the tight feeling of having a nappy on.

[user1499786242]

Honestly just wait! She's obviously not ready
Potty training shouldn't be a stressful time for either of you!
Like someone else said, wait a few months and start again :)

[HSMMaCM]

Tea&biscuits i only suggested the nappy in the potty because it worked for one of my mindees. Everything else had been suggested .

She's got plenty of tine yet, but the child seems to be interested in the potty, so I'd give training a go and not worry if it doesn't work. There's no rush OP.