Help!! Do I carry on potty training my 2year old or go back to nappies

[user1495119954]

So we're on day 4 of potty training she's really good with it but doesn't tell me if she needs a pee or a poo she's showing me she's ready she always wants changing when she's pooed and she stays dry for 2 hours or more (unless she's been pumped full of juice to get things going) she's got signals that she needs to go but she ignores them until she's peeing but she will stop and run to potty to finish but if I put her on potty when I notice the signals she just gets off is there anything I can do to let her know she has to get there before?

[Somethingtotalkabout1982]

Day 2 here and similar experience! He goes when put on potty at regular intervals but doesn't make it in time left to his own devices!

[teaandbiscuitsforme]

Something If you are watching him carefully and move him to the potty every time he shows he needs a wee (or has started to do it in the very early days) then that is teaching him to link the feeling of needing a wee with the potty. Watch out for the signal that he's about to wee and prompt to go to the potty!Has he got no bottoms on?

How are you getting on OP?

[soundsystem]

In your shoes, I'd go back to nappies. It's SO much easier if you wait until they're completely ready.

I'd put her in nappies but keep the potty out, so that if she wants to use it she can but there's no pressure? Have you seen those nappy pants that Pampers do now? They're actual nappies, rather than pull-ups, but like pants so she can take up and down herself. Might be worth a shot?

[DorotheaHomeAlone]

She sounds totally ready. I'd just keep on putting her on the potty every couple of hours. If she doesn't go leave it 30m and try again. Day 4 is early. She'll need reminding to go for a couple of years yet!

[littletwofeet]

I think it's so much easier when they are totally ready - so they can tell you they need to go, get there on time and are able to hold it in when out and about.
It's also easier if they can get most clothes up and down themselves and on and off the toilet.

[user1495119954]

Thanks I went back to nappies just for the weekend to give us a brake but tomorrow we're going back to bare bottom unless we go out and I will be putting a pull up on and we have those pampers pull up nappies we've been using them since she was about 1, she enjoys using the potty, like yesterday she asked for her nappy changed so I changed it and in the middle of changing she said wee wee so I asked if she wanted to use the potty and she said yeah and pulled it out sat on it but she didn't do anything so I left her until she asked to go to bed (still using nappies for bed) she knows when she needs a wee it's just that little bit of a trickle just as she realises she needs to go x

[littletwofeet]

Remember, her realising she needs as wee as she is starting to wee is different to her recognising she needs to go before hand and holding it it in until she gets to the toilet.

If she is ready, it's not a stress or something you need a break from, they just 'get it'. Apart from maybe the odd accident if they get too absorbed playing or you're out and far away from the toilet.

If you are having to put nappies on to go out, it's just going to be stressful for you and confusing for her. I would proabably leave it until she seems a bit more ready.

[user1495119954]

She dose hold her wee in like she will get up at about 10am have a morning wee and then she won't wee till about 1-2pm she shows plenty of signs she needs a wee it's just getting her to sit on potty till it comes if that makes sense? But I think I'll more than likely leave it for another month and then give it another try

[littletwofeet]

By holding her wee, I mean recognising she needs to go before it starts to come out and holding it until she gets to the toilet. Rather than only realising she needs to go as she starts to wee, if that makes sense!

Can she wee on demand? So if you sit her on potty, can she do a wee even if it's only a little bit? That's usually a good sign.

You know her best though, if you feel she's ready then give it a go.

[user1495119954]

She won't wee on demand yet so I'll leave it a few months before trying her again x

[Somethingtotalkabout1982]

Almost end of day 2 here and definitely a better day than yesterday. We've had one change of clothes all day and we even ventured to the very local swimming pool this afternoon. After swimming he was sat on the grass eating his snack and suddenly said he needed a wee, luckily I had taken potty with us, popped him on quick and bingo! So I think he is slowly getting the idea...

[Nan0second]

Read oh crap potty training. It will really help.

[teaandbiscuitsforme]

I'd recommend Oh Crap too. Really helped me with DD.

[user1495119954]

I just wanted to ask what advice could you give to me, my daughter was fine over the weekend in nappies but now she just wants her nappy off and every time she wees in it she will go wee wee and then say oh no wee wee and pull potty out I'll pull her pull ups down and and sit her on potty but she's already peed in her nappy

[teaandbiscuitsforme]

Personally I wouldn't use any nappies or pull ups (other than naps or bedtime).

The Oh Crap 'method' is about spending 1-3 days naked or with no bottoms, moving them to the potty every time they give a sign that they're about to wee (could be non-verbal). Then you move on to them wearing bottoms but no underwear and then after a couple of weeks, adding underwear.

How would your DD do without the pull ups?

[user1495119954]

With out pull ups she knows she needs to get to potty when she needs a wee but she will ignore the signs she needs one and if I sit her on the potty when I notice the signs she will just get off potty and if I distract her while she's on potty she won't wee but if I leave her to her own devices she will like sort of bend her legs and start to pee but will stop after she's trickled a bit and then get to potty to finish I did the 3 day training day 1 we stayed in all day and did nothing but potty train she got it after a few try's but would trickle on the floor before she got there, day 2 we stayed in all morning still using potty bear bummed we went out an hour in the afternoon but I had and hair appointment so my mum had her and she said they was out just over an hour and she had an accident so she took her home and that she would use the potty they had at there's so she didn't have a wee until she got home on her normal potty and day 3 we went out an hour in the afternoon and she had 2 accidents 15 minutes apart (she did drink a full carton on juice) and day 4 she just kept trickleing before she got to potty and then I just put her back in pull ups as I didn't know if she was ready or not as my parents was saying she wasn't ready and I had different opinions off others that she was and she wasn't

[littletwofeet]

I found with mine that them telling you when they had done a wee/as they started to wee meant they were nearly there.

I used to say 'well done for telling me' and say if they wanted to do their wees and poos in the toilet to let me know.

I went straight to the toilet though and they could get on and off themselves.

Mine were closer to 3 though but it meant that I didn't have to do bare bum, worry about going out as they could hold it in and only had the odd accident. I didn't have to watch the for signs or keep reminding them to go.

Everyone does things differently, I think I took the easy way (I probably could have got them trained sooner but it would have meant lots of accidents and I think I would have found not being able to go out/worrying about them weeing on other people's couches, etc stressful).

Loads of people do it early though and do the bare bum, stay in for few days, etc so there's nothing wrong with that. Do whatever you feel is best for you both.

Once they get to school age it doesn't matter and you would never know who trained at before 2 and who was older than 3!

[user1495119954]

Yeah I know what you mean but she's going to be going to nursery in September and they prefer them to be toilet trained I mean I'm not applying any pressure on her to use the potty I just let her sit on it if she say wee wee and points to it if she's doesn't then I don't say anything it's just so confusing on to carry on or just leave it for a few more months

[littletwofeet]

There are loads of children who start nursery in nappies so I wouldn't worry about that. She's your DD, do what you think is best, don't be pressured from the nursery. September is quite a way away, especially in terms of development for a 2 year old.

It sounds like she is nearly there - she is going a few hours inbetween wees and can tell you as she is starting to wee. If she's not interested in staying on the potty long enough to do a wee though you might just end up getting yourself stressed out over nothing.

Some people do all nappy changes in the bathroom so that might help.

You could carry on and see how she goes but if her body's not ready, it's not ready. It might be in a couple of months, or she might just 'get it' after a day or two.

[user1495119954]

Thanks I'm just going to do the no pressure method until she's 100% ready, if she asks I'll let her sit on it or if she doesn't want a nappy on I won't force anything

[Lj8893]

I didn't really do any potty training with dd. When she turned 3 my mum started to nag me a bit saying I must train her but she hadn't shown any signs whatsoever of being ready. Just before xmas I tried to train her and it was a nightmare, so we went back into nappys (pull ups). Slowly she started using a potty/toilet but all at her own pace. She's now 3.5 which may sound old to some people but it was soooo easy for us and she is completely dry at day and night too.

[user1495119954]

Soooo, since I last posted we stopped potty training and went back to nappies for about a month, we've been potty training again for around 1 1/2 months and she got the first 2 days with no problems what so ever she would take her self to the potty every time she needed to go and then on the 3rd day I was stupid enough to listen to my mum who said put her a nappy on we're only going out for an hour and it messed it all up she then started to trickle again before getting to the potty and having plenty of accidents so we've been on and off since as my mum took her away and used nappies for most of the day while they was out as they only had a weeks worth of clothes ( I did originally go cold turkey with nappies apart from bed) so she's now been back for 2 weeks and since then she hasn't really asked to use the potty but she's started to ask again and tell me when she's wet or wants her nappy changing, we was out today and she told us (me and my mum) that she had to go wee wee to start off with I didn't take her seriously and just said okay wee wee in your nappy and anyway she kicked and screamed to go to potty so in the end I took her just as I started to unfasten her nappy she started to wee so I couldn't get her on the toilet but she was right next to it and managed to hold it for at least 5-10 minutes while we was waiting for food before I took her she then asked after dinner to use potty but she must have asked after she'd weed as I put her on toilet and she would go and her nappy was wet, and then she asked to go before we left and she went on toilet so I'm a bit confused on if she's ready or weather I should just keep her in nappies as she must know what it feels like to need the toilet to ask for it but she does keep having accidents at home but she will have to stop what she's doing and concentrate really hard to wee so hard that I have to raise my voice to get her attention to tell her to go to her potty before weeing but obviously by this time she has trickled a bit but it's done deliberately

[mamaM0]

Potty training is a Nightmare! Help!
I'm sorry but it is. My 2 yr old DD removed her nappy & all her clothes last week and refused to wear her nappy, so once at nursery with potty in hand I explained the situation, their approach was whip the nappy off & let's go! 3 days later without much info from nursery on how it's going decided to start potty training at home. Oh boy I was not prepared. After 2.5 horrible days she seemed to finally be getting it by end of day 3, Day 5 only 1 accident I felt progress was being made but then day 6 (today). Regression. I just don't understand why she stands up when peeing/to pee... It's almost as though she likes the wet feeling, I just don't get it. We have managed 2 short outings sans nappy without accident but today 5 accidents! I'm wondering if I've been a bit gung ho in my approach, perhaps she isn't ready for pants? Maybe I should put her back in nappies and put her on the potty first thing & at Bathtime... Any insight would be much appreciated, I've turned into mean mummy .