Pants problem

[Smashingzucchini]

DS (nearly 3) just cannot get the hang of pants. When left with nothing on his bottom half he nearly always gets it in the toilet, very few accidents. However when put in pants he just behaves as though they're a nappy (which he still wears at night). He will wee/poo in them even if he has only recently been taken to the toilet. He is perfectly aware he is doing this, and can tell you that wees and poos are supposed to go in the toilet, not in the pants, but this doesn't seem to translate to behaviour. I am so frustrated, as we have been stuck on this stage now for almost 9 months. Chocolate buttons and star charts aren't working.

I know some people will say he's just too young but I really do think he is capable of doing this. (My other DS was fully toilet trained at 2.5, not that that means anything.) More to the point, when he turns three he is supposed to go to school kindergarten (we don't live in the UK) - but they will only have him if he's completely toilet trained. He does really want to go to school and it would be really frustrating if he had to miss out because of this.

Please someone tell me what magic bullet I can shoot next?!

[teaandbiscuitsforme]

Try no pants, just trousers? It'll take away the security of the nappy feeling.

[Smashingzucchini]

I'm thinking of playing the Scottish heritage card and getting him a kilt!

[BellaGoth]

Have you tried boxer shorts, bit baggier so might be easier for him.

Also, my DS wore underwear a couple of sizes too big at that age, seemed to make it easier for him.

[teaandbiscuitsforme]

Go for it!

The book I read recommended no bottoms for a day or so, then no pants just trousers for a couple of weeks before moving on to trousers for this exact reason. I know you've been going a bit longer but might be worth a try? Maybe a day with no bottoms to reset then just trousers?