Day 3 - not much progress - should I continue

[Mayflower78]

Need some advice!
DD is 2yrs 7 months. Happily sitting on potty and toilet. Decided to start training properly on Monday. She sits on potty but doesn't seem to recognise the urge to wee.
Day one, numerous accidents - one wee in potty straight after her nap
Day two same - but took herself off on her own and did a poo in potty - great progress.
Day three - numerous accidents and getting upset with me constantly trying her on potty and asking if she needs to wee.

She's just naked at the mo - I have also tried big girls pants - when she wees she knows she needs to get to the potty but she doesn't make it until after she has weed. I can also sit her on it for ages and she can't make herself go.

I'm thinking it is too early and she doesn't have the bladder control. But then will switching her back to nappies confuse her?
There is such conflicting advice, I'm really not sure what to do. Feel like I'm forcing it on her.

Any help/experience? Do I crack on? Or just give up. I have to go out later this week and she's back at nursery next week too. Thanks

[teaandbiscuitsforme]

Are you looking out for what she does before she wees? i.e. Does she jiggle/move/flap, etc. DD used to stand still. Then when you see that sign, move her onto the potty. She might start weeing, but you'll both soon start to recognise it and you'll be able to start prompting her to move to the potty before she starts weeing.

Also I found naked -> top half clothed -> leggings with no knickers -> knickers (3 weeks after we started potty training) worked well for DD.

Good luck!

[Mayflower78]

Thanks for the reply - I ve been watching her like a hawk but it's like she doesn't have any signs. She just goes 'oh no' when a wee starts! And then gets upset. Makes me think she doesn't have any control. But in all other ways she's a bright, strong, active and physical child so maybe she's just not listening to her signs - or I am not. I'll keep watching her!

[teaandbiscuitsforme]

I'm no expert, only did it with DD in the last couple of months, but it seemed like she wasn't doing anything and then I noticed she paused briefly. Would've been nice if she'd done some big arm waving thing though!

I'd say days 3 & 4 were the hardest for us, felt like we turned a big corner on day 5. And then of course on day 6 she did a wee in the kids section of IKEA after 2 failed trips to the toilet! But she did really well when she went to nursery that Monday (think it was day 9).

[angelopal]

My DD was similar at that age. We put her back in nappies and tried again the week she turned 3. Within a couple of days she got it. She was getting upset first time round so we stopped as didn't want to make it an issue.

[Mayflower78]

Thanks for the replies. Day 4 not much better. She poos in potty fine but has now started holding it a bit. I'm just so torn between going back in to nappies to keep the peace, or persevering in the hope that it will all click! This is tougher than having a newborn!

[1Evaline1]

My daughter is 2.7 also and we are on day 5 now the first 3 days she used the potty the same ratio as the floor so 3:3 etc but yesterday she seemed a bit annoyed with the potty and was over it so cried a little when we made her use it and even though she used it twice she peed on the floor 3 times. But today she hasn't had any accidents and she's even been to the park and stayed dry, but she's holding it a little also and her tummys a bit bloated but I'm not giving up so I'm going to give her a big glass of nice juice to help her on her way.

She will get there in the end

[Mayflower78]

Just to update - we persevered but I took the pressure off a bit. Day 4/5 prettt stressy but some improvement. Today - day 6 - it seems to have clicked - no accidents at all and even went at the cinema. So proud of her. Thanks for the advice - glad we stuxk with it.

[GlummyMummy]

We are on day 3 with a nearly 3 year old. Lots of pees in the potty and only two accidents. Sort of pleased with progress so far but.......she hasn't been for a poo today, pooped all over the floor yesterday so a bit worried she might be too nervous to go (she usually does several poops a day so none today is very out of character!) Also, the main issue for us is she doesn't seem to know when she needs so I'm just constantly on at her asking her to go! Should a nearly 3 year old not know the sensation and should I not be starting until that awareness is there with her?

[1Evaline1]

Glummy mummy I'm so glad you wrote that as I am supposed to be on day 6 with potty training and although my dd is managing even scores with potty and the floor i.e. 3:3 etc she's not telling us when she needs to go and is holding everything on. TBH we haven gave up for now and it's stressing everyone out and it's not worth it.

There's plenty of times over the next few months to train her so I'm saying to myself why rush now. I felt it had to be done because she was of a certain. Age, but when I think about it I don't care what others think she will be trained soon in her own town and realistically there's no outside pressure as she doesn't start school for many years so I'm going to read with this

[1Evaline1]

Sorry my auto correct is a nightmare.

When I ask my dd does she need to go potty she always says no then pees on the floor, we have only caught it in potty by sitting her on it loads and loads for 15/20 minutes a time which isn't fair on her.

But she confuses me as when she's done a dirty nappy she tells me to change it. If any win

[teaandbiscuitsforme]

One tip I read was not to ask whether they want the potty but to say it as a statement so there's less opportunity for them to say no. So 'it's time to wee' rather than 'do you want a wee'.

Or my favourite is 'I'm going for a wee, are you going first or second?' Invariably DD always goes first!

[GlummyMummy]

I like that idea TeaandBiscuits. She says no every time I ask her if she needs, then when I take her she does a pee so must have been needing! Apart from her not asking to go, the pees are fine again today, totally dry and doing a pee in loo or potty every time. Poos however a disaster! Went out for an hour this afternoon and she pooped her pants twice! Please tell me it gets easier! 😞

[Mayflower78]

I think it gets easier and then a bit worse and then easier again. It's weird for them I suppose, and a bit uncomfortable - especially if we are putting pressure on them. My LG had a good day yest, then had an upset stomach so had two accidents and it's set her right back. There aren't many 6 year olds in nappies so it must get easier. 😂

[GlummyMummy]

Here's hoping, Mayflower!! Our little one is doing well with the pees, taking her every hour and dry all day again. Mind you, she barely drinks anything in a day. And she still hasn't said she needs yet. Two more poop disasters though 😞 She's just not getting it, even as I'm cleaning up her mess, she's still saying to me "do I get my sticker now?" The problem is she isn't saying she needs and there are no signs so we just aren't getting her to the loo in enough time. Not too sure what to try! Don't want this to become a habit.