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Should DS be telling me he wants to go?(15 Posts)
We have just started potty training DS who is 2 & 3months. We started on Monday and he did wee's in the potty on day 1 with one accident,
day2 poo on the potty in the morning and his wee's ,again one accident.
Today wee & poo on the normal toilet he started having an accident but stopped himself we pulled his pants down and he finished of on the potty. We have also managed to go out for a walk for an hour each day with no accident (make sure he wee's before we go)
My problem is he doesn't say when he wants to go so I continually ask & he says no, after nearly an hour I sat him down and he did a big wee like he had been holding it in.
He shows not interest in pulling his pants up and down, & when I get him to practice doing this he can't seem to get them down far and certainly can't get them back up! Am I expecting too much? He has never shown any interest in trying to take of any items of clothes like socks etc....
So when will he tell me he needs to go?
Should he be able to pull his pants on and off?
How do I know his cracked it?
My ds was dry from day 4/5 but it took a few weeks after that for him to start telling me...until then I encouraged him to have a wee every hour or so, slowly lengthening it over the weeks until he naturally started initiating it himself.
Mine is 2yrs 10mths and has been successfully potty trained for just over 3 months now, but still it's usually me that prompts the wee, he hardly ever asks to go! In fact, if I ask him "do you need a wee?" he will literally always say no, even if he hasn't been for hours. So I just don't ask anymore - I just bring him into the toilet and put him on the toilet saying it's time for a wee, and most of the time he happily goes!
I have noticed a couple of times recently he has asked me though, so I think it's just something that comes over time. They are just far too busy and distracted exploring and playing at this age and don't always notice when they need to go. But on the plus side once they're potty trained they don't tend to wet themselves unless their bladder is really really full, as they tend to save it up a bit more. I have come to realise there's nothing wrong with prompting indefinitely. in fact, I was discussing this with my aunt the other day and she says she still reminds her two boys to go for a wee before bedtime... they're both in their 20s
Well I suppose I didn't consider them toilet trained until the took themselves of to the toilet when they needed it without prompting. We cracked it within a few days tbh with just a occasional accidents after that.
I would step back with the asking and let him learn cause and effect!
Thank you so much for your replies, so I guess it's keep asking and sit him down to go until he starts to initiate it himself.
How are your LO with pulling pants down? As DS just shows no interest in this!
And yes crunchy I remember my mum asking my brothers
usually if they had been drinking to goto the toilet before bed and they were over 20!
A while ago now but I think I just said it was time to go to the toilet. Maybe every 30 mins for first few days.
Randommess I did wonder about letting him have some accidents so like you say he learns cause and effect. I might back off a bit tomorrow and see how that goes, as he can hold it. Maybe I will just ask him a few times
sick of the sound of my own voice today
Ivealreadypaid yeh I feel like I've been asking every 10/15min so might leave it a bit longer tomorrow. Today I had to finally sit him down after an hour and he did a wee then ran off playing again.
Loose trousers or joggers without undies might help him to learn how to pull up and down.
Sounds like he's doing great. My DS is 9 months older and trained later (about 2.8 or 2.9yr) and still struggles with his trousers sometimes.
Sounds like he is doing well Good luck!
We've been nappy free for a week now and I have stuck to joggers (he's also skinny so most of the time they are practically falling down!) It's only in the last couple of days that we've put pants on as well, he was commando until then.
In terms of asking, he does and has done from day 1, but I'm told that's unusual. He's 2 and a half.
Thankyou, coming near the end of day 5 and still only one accident a day ( one was a poo!) have only been asking him every half hour and sitting him down every hour. We went out for his hair cut today and he held his wee until we got him home, so going to have Gin
or three tonight to celebrate. Thankyou for all you responses will just keep on with him, never thought I would look back on the sleep deprivation/sore nipples/new born stage with such fondness
We seem to have a mental block on poo as well -nearly all his accidents have been poo related. He can do a poo on the potty but I think it's unexpected iyswim!
Just wanted to say Thankyou again for all the tips. We are now into week 3 and DS has had no accidents for A week, and is telling me he needs to go a poo or wee! Still not great at pulling his pants down however has done it a few times!
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