I don't know what to do. I've always been fairly relaxed on the potty training front preferring to follow his lead rather than impose something on him before he was ready. We had a potty in the front room and asked him now and again whether he wanted to use it which was always a negative. We also got him a potty book, other than that we left it alone.
We decided to potty train him last July as it was the summer and he was nearly 4. He wasn't showing signs of being ready. He had previously gone through a stage of telling me before he did a poo but that was some time earlier. I was sick of having 2 in nappies so tried anyway. Total disaster, 8 days of accident after accident. He would deny he had weed and pooed and was perfectly content to sit in it. We tried a reward chart, chocolate buttons and promised him a toy if he started doing it. This had no impact other than sometimes he would then sit on the potty to 'get a toy' but then he would never do anything.
He told me after 8 days that he didn't want to potty train. The HV advised that he wasn't ready and to try again in a few months.
We're still nowhere several months later. In fact, today I've realised why he sometimes sits on the potty nothing happens. I thought it was a frustrating coincidence but it's deliberate.
Today I could tell a poo was on its way so I told him that if he did it on the potty/toilet that I would get him a rescue bot that same day. After a while, he said he needed to poo and sat on the potty and then the toilet. Nothing happened but he insisted on staying on there so he could have a rescue bot. Then suddenly he decided it wasn't coming so he got up and I put a pull up on him. He went upstairs and two minutes later, there was a poo in his pull up. He got off the toilet because he knew that the poo was coming!
I know we're going to have to go cold turkey again and put him in pants but I really feel that it's going to be last July all over again. His fear of pooing and seeing on the toilet is that deep seated, he would rather have accidents.
He starts school in September and we desperately need this sorting. Does anyone have any advice?
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4 and a half and still not potty trained
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