DD 2.7 has had a potty around for about 6 months, shows interest in it and would occasionally use, especially when naked at bath time. Tried gentle potty training about 2 months ago (i.e. An hour a day then building up at home with pants on). Tried for about 10 days but would only wee/poo on potty if specifically put on it, would never ask, and wouldn't say she needed to go if asked, lots of accidents. No really interest in reward charts or "big girl"allure, although sleeps in "big girl bed". Started again last week, same thing, doesn't seem aware of when she needs to go, and doesn't care that wet (although generally tells us when she has pooed, as she does when she has a nappy). She's not starting nursery until March, so what to do? Is she not ready? Was thinking of stopping for now and then going hard core (i.e. Take nappies away completely in February half term). Your wisdom welcome !
Sounds like she's ready but be careful you're not confusing her with 'working slowly up to it'. I think it works best cold turkey except maybe nappies at night if you want because some kids take a while to night train. A week of going when offered but accidents when not is not really a big deal, it's actually quite a success. Keep offering regularly and don't be afraid to be a bit negative (not shaming but explaining wet clothes isn't nice, poor you. Next time tell mummy in time so you don't get wet trousers). She knows how to pee on a potty which is great but now needs to learn to call when she gets the urge. She'll get it. But don't start putting nappies on for part of the day etc as it will be so confusing.
I would leave it. Does she need to be potty trained for nursery? I tried with 2nd DD at about same age and she gave every indication that she could do it. I think she just didn't want to. About a month before she was 3 she decided by herself that she wanted to wear knickers (disappeared for half an hour, came back wearing knickers and leggings, she had taken nappy off and put it in the bin and then told me she wasn't wearing them anymore!). Your DD may well tell you when she's ready and then will go 'cold turkey' and do it in a few days.
I'm in the opposite camp. My dd never understood the concept of needing to go before it happened until a week of solid potty training where she weed on the floor/down her leg. It was a learning process and she clicked - we just kept going with pants until the lightbulb moment