Hello - just started using mumsnet after a long break (so hang in there while I relearn all the abbreviations !), desperately searching for some help. We started toilet training DS at 2.5 but still cant convince him to poo in the loo. We managed about a month earlier this year when he started using the loo at home and even a couple of times when we were out but it took a lot of encouragement and he soon went back into doing it in his pants again. When he started school I put him back in pull ups just because he really doesn't care if he does it in his pants (never asked to wear a nappy for a poo etc) and I really worry about the other children noticing as he won't tell you if he's had an accident. School have been kind and clean him up but I don't know how to help him get over this when he's not at home as much. He's never been constipated (took him to GP again this week who said, no he's not - for a long while he was too much the other way) and seems to have a pattern of going after lunch when he is at school . He loves school, it's tiny - 7 kids in yr though and he doesn't yet have many friends but when he moves up next year he'll be in with the older children and I don't see him getting better before then. What do we do? He's had rewards etc - charts didn't work so he had small rewards for progress (he has so many bloody poo toys now) and when he'd done really well got him a big reward but although he was made up with himself he slowly went back to messing again. He goes on the loo for 10 mins after meals (but won't do this away from home and needs heavy bribery to do it at home) and I leave him in his jamas for as long as possible because that's how we got him to use the loo before - going naked first, then moving onto loose clothing so he didn't have anything to catch it in - though now he's gone even further backwards and just lets it fall on the floor. I've spoken to so many people but because he's not constipated they can't help . we've seen GP, I've spoken to ERIC lots, now waiting to see hospital continence people via school nurse. He's fed up too of us trying to talk to him about it. We've also checked for food causing it. Everyone smiles kindly and says he'll get there himself and that his problem is common but it's so stressful, I'm so worried that other kids will notice and hell get teased but also that we've missed something that means he cant do it. I'm hoping someone here has had a similar problem and can say how they got past it. Sorry this is so long and thanks for reading x x
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