Night time toilet training

[Mollmoo]

DD1 is 4.3, we potty trained her at 2 and she got it immediately. We put her in pull ups over night while she got used to weeing on the toilet during the day and I honestly did think she would just progress to being dry over night by herself. We didn't push her on being dry at night and 2 years later she's still in them. I had DD2 a couple of months later and didn't want to put more on her by pushing her to be dry at night during the transition. Plus I was too tired dealing with a new born to worry about getting up to change wet sheets. Then I went back to work and again was too tired and worried about having to function in work to be getting up to change sheets. I was at a playgroup recently and a couple of parents were shocked that she was still in pull ups at night and not dry. I'm off work for 2 weeks so decided to go for it. Night 1, 3 accidents. Nights 2, 3 & 4, only 1 accident per night, getting progressively later through the night. Last night however 2 massive accidents. This morning I feel really down about it. Am I expecting too much and just need to give it time? Should I have just done it earlier? I hate the pull ups and I do think she knows they are there so doesn't even bother trying so is unlikely to self- train.

[Mollmoo]

Does anyone have any advise. It would be greatly appreciated.

[Ni58]

I don't know really - we limited drinks before bed, she has a potty in her room, a night light so she can find said potty...
She very rarely has an accident but if she does, it's not the end of the world.
I'm sure you'll get there, it can't be uncommon.

[FrinkadelicA12]

My dd was the same, she was still in nighttime pull ups at 4.5 and I was getting stressed over it, we tried a few times but lots of accidents and her getting upset and too much laundry so we left it and all of a sudden about 4.8 she was waking up dry every morning, asked to not use the pull ups and she has never wet the bed six months later. We don't take her to wee in the night or anything, she was just ready. A lot of her little friends, boys and girls are the same. You're not alone!

[NuzzleandScratch]

Apparently you can't train them for nights, as it's controlled by a hormone. Dd1 one day said she didn't want to wear nappies any more at night when she was 2 and a half, and was pretty much dry after that (daytime & soiling another matter!), but dd2 is still in pull ups at just turned 4, pull up still wet most mornings. I'm really not bothered and know she'll get there when she's ready. Other parents commenting is ridiculous, they should mind their own business!

[InTheDessert]

Dry at night relieving a certain level of hormone being present. So, yes, it takes time. Night dryness before the age of 7 is not of any concern at all.
Put the pull ups (or Pyjama pants, if you need a change) back on, and wait til they are dry in the mornings, or you think she is weeing into them first thing, and they are otherwise dry.

[Mollmoo]

Thank you for sharing your experiences. I think I was feeling a bit guilty that I'd been preoccupied by dd2 arriving then selfishly tired and had in some way allowed her to become reliant on them and prevented her progressing and now it was too late. Nothing like a bit of mothers guilt!
That's really interesting about the hormone I didn't know that.
I'm going to give her a few more days and see how we go. She just doesn't seem bothered when she wakes up wet.

[JimmyGreavesMoustache]

dd1 was reliably dry by day before she was 3, but still wearing night nappies until nearly five, well into reception year at school
then all of a sudden just before her fifth birthday the nappies started to be dry on the odd night, and over the course of the following 2 or 3 weeks we moved towards total dryness. not a single wet bed ever. no training, nothing.