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Help 3yr 7 month old!

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harrietcookie Sat 02-Jan-16 18:54:54

My son who is 3 yrs and 7 months has numerous daily wee accidents. When he was 2 yrs and 2 months I took him out of nappies and put him straight into big boy pants, we continued for 18months (no pull ups) where we had approx 3 accidents a day and he very rarely asked but would go when put on toilet. Since then we have had normal urine sample tests and a normal kidney scan. The Gp and health visitor basically suggested he may not be ready 2 months ago and for sanities sake suggested I put him back in pull ups. In the last 2 weeks we have put him back in his pants (as he has been off nursery and we felt it was a good opportunity)and he is just the same.

This is where we are up to:
-approx 3 accidents a day, small patch that soaks through his trousers but not a full bladder
-100% with poo's, not had one of those accidents for months
-when asked the question "do you need a wee" the answer without fal is "no" and he will often wet straight after
-every trip to the toilet is a fight "i dont need a wee wee"
-I sometimes think he goes onto all 4's when he needs a wee and maybe jigs a bit but he moves a lot so not easy to tell when he needs to go
-he has occasionally told me when he needs to go but this seems to be when he is naked or when sat still in the car
-he attend childcare for 3 days a week and is no better or worse for them
-he did not like other children seeing his pull ups and didnt want to wear them stating they were "for babies"
- he is lively but lovely and fairly normal I would say for a boy of his age

I have tried sticker charts, chocolate jar, money jar (!), positive, putting on at regualar intervels, leaving him to it and not asking, pants, pull ups

I know you shouldnt compare but my little girl had a month of reguar accidents but was dry by 2.5 years old. Interestingly both his dad and grandad have had anxiety and part of the symptoms/cause is related to an overactive bladder. His dad trained himself to not go as often and this heped with his anxiety and this has now gone, his grandad does not discuss but stops constantly for a wee.

I dont know what to do now, he can be refered to the continance service at 4 but he starts school in September and I am getting anxious!

harrietcookie Sun 03-Jan-16 12:58:59


harrietcookie Thu 07-Jan-16 22:52:07

Anyone please?!?

spaceyboo Thu 07-Jan-16 22:57:25

A family friend wee trained his son by taking him into the garden to wee. They would 'aim' at flowers and shrubs to make it a game & then later when he was able to tell them he wanted to go they bribed him to use the toilet. A bit weird I know so feel free to ignore!

VegetablEsoup Thu 07-Jan-16 22:58:34

have you tried rephrasing "do you need a wee" to "tell me when you need to go"? that gives him some control back.
but tbh it sounds stressful for both of you, so would put him in nappies until spring and try again then.

harrietcookie Fri 08-Jan-16 18:47:46

Thanks for the help people we are going to try with waterproof pants for a while x

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