I have a 4 year old girl who has cp diplegia. The problem is she is not getting toilet training at all. I am so frustrated with her and at the end of my tether that I could cry.
She has a twin sister who has no disability. She has been toilet trained for ages and didn't really need much help from us for doing it. She still wears a pull up at night but during the day would be 100% reliable and would take herself to the toilet if she needed to go.
My other dd goes to a mainstream nursery and has a classroom assistant. We have drummed it into her that is she needs to go to the toilet to ask X as she needs a bit of assistance with her balance and pulling up and down her pants and trousers. The problem is that if you set her on the toilet she will go but she won't ask to go so for example she could need to do a pee but instead of asking would just pee herself. She gets her 1 to 1 class room assistant for 15 hours and in this time seems to stay dry. I think the rest of the time though that the staff are busy and she is not getting the attention that she needs. There are some days when I come in and the staff say X has been great today and has had no accidents at all and we think that we are finally getting somewhere with her. Then other days she has had a bad day and has peed herself about four times and it doesn't seem to annoy her sitting in wet clothes. I know she is capable of toilet raining and of course you expect accidents but she is 4 and is in preschool and I think the only one not potty trained by a mile. She is due for P1 next year. What will I do if she is not potty trained by then? I feel like such a crap parent that I can't potty train a child when others at 2 and 3 are easily potty trained.
Today she stayed dry at preschool which was great only to get to Granny and Grandads and peed herself three times in one afternoon. Three adults were there to ask to help. There are pottys and a downstairs toilet but she just sat on the floor and peed herself. Got changed and done the same two more times. I don't mind her being in a pull up during the night but don't want her to be seen like a baby at nursery in pull ups during the day so she goes to nursery wearing big girl pants. I don't like sending mixed messages but sometimes I would put her in a pull up during the day just to save embarrassment. We had a particularly embarrassing incident at physio a few weeks ago. My dd was asked numerous times before she went in if she needed the toilet and said no, she was set on the toilet and didn't do anything so went in to our physio session and done a pee and not only a pee but a massive flood of a pee. I know taking in her disability things might be more difficult but its the fact that she will just sit and pee herself and isn't bothered about sitting in wet and smelly clothes that worries me.
Has anyone else been in this situation or have any help for me I would be so grateful. I need to get this situation sorted.
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Albaba · 09/11/2015 16:13
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