refuses to sit down on potty

[witchkat72]

My 2 and half year old son refuses to go to toilet on the potty by sitting on it. He will stand up and wee if I hold potty up close to him, but will not sit down to wee let alone poo! We have brought him a bigger potty which he chose himself ( he's quite tall and on normal potty appears quite scrunched up) I have also brought bubbles which he blows whilst sitting on the potty (as recommended by children's nurse, as apparently he will not be able to hold onto his bowel motions or urine while blowing) .
Well he will now sit on potty to blow toilet bubbles (as he has called them) however will not use it , he sat on it for ages (his choice as asked him to get up) but nothing, then he stood up and wee'd standing up again!
So at a loss on what to do to get him to use his potty sitting down. Any ideas welcome and thank you in advance.

[princessvikki]

Have you tried scrapping the potty all together and going straight to the toilet? I would try that. Also I would get dad to show him what to do for sitting and standing.

[Woooooohoooooo]

Get a proper kids loo seat to go on a normal loo seat.

Or stop trying for a bit

[princessvikki]

Have you considered scrapping the potty all together and going straight to the toilet? I would give that a try, also I would get dad to show him what to do for sitting and standing.

[Woooooohoooooo]

Mine all hated pottys

[DramaAlpaca]

I agree with princessvikki - I'd scrap the potty altogether and get him to use the toilet. I did this with my DS at the same age as yours. He was a big child who just wasn't comfy on the potty, but was quite happy to use a training seat on the loo. We put a plastic step stool in front of the loo for him to stand on.

[TaurielTest]

Agree with going straight for toilet - but maybe also stepping back for a bit.
Boys often wee sitting down even once they use the toilet (mine do), but if your DS really prefers standing to wee but it doesn't work with step, you could try one of these Weeman urinal things - a friend of mine used them:
www.amazon.co.uk/Weeman-Boys-Toilet-Trainer/dp/B001G9IRNQ?tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-21

[witchkat72]

Unfortunately I have tried him on toilet with training seat and a step but same reaction! He tells me when he's gone to toilet in his nappy and fully aware of his bodily functions, which to me was a sign of being ready. So I'll give him another break and see where we go from there. He's also watched daddy use toilet and this is where the standing up comes from.
Thank you for your suggestions

[princessvikki]

What about getting rid of the nappies and putting him in pants. Make the nappy not an option. Might be a bit messy for you but could be worth a try

[StormyBrid]

I'd wait, OP. Your opening post is familiar to me and second post identical to my situation with my daughter. For the past few months she's been aware of when she's going and announcing it, but kicking right off at the mere suggestion of sitting on it. I thought to hell with everyone saying she's ready; she clearly isn't.

The past few weeks she's been wearing pullups - I bought some by mistake a while back, ran out of nappies and used a pullup instead, she loved it. I stopped putting her in vests at the same time, so she's spent a lot of time figuring out how to get out of her trousers so she can, ahem, have a good rummage over these few weeks.

This morning she turned to me and announced: "I need a wee!" I asked if she'd like to do it in the potty. "Oh! Yes! The potty!" she said, and pulled her trousers and pullup down. Then she sat on the potty and stayed there for a good five minutes while staring at the telly. "Aww," she said at last, "it's gone away." I made a big fuss of her anyway. Later we had the same again, but still no wee produced. I left her to it while I went to have a crafty cig sort the washing out. A minute later: "Mummy, mummy! A wee! I did a wee!"

Sorry that got a bit lengthy, OP, I'm just still grinning like a maniac. Wait a bit. If he doesn't want to sit, you can't force him. He'll sit when he's ready to. Things I think may have helped us get here: talking frequently about when she uses the potty like a big girl, not if; introducing a sticker chart to teach her the benefits of doing as she's told (because refusing to sit when told means it's not really going to work); and seeing kids at nursery with potty training reward charts.

[witchkat72]

Thank you I'll see how he goes by himself, I would like to say though that I'm in no way for ing him to sit, it's said each time, would you like to sit on potty for a wee? As it is he's currentlys hitting watching cbeebies on the potty! So we shall see. Also have been out and brought stickers from pound shop and hoping to start a chart.