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NoSnotAllowed Sat 03-Jan-15 19:12:45

DS1 is 3.1 and is still in nappies. Ive not really tried to tackle potty training before as DS2 is only 16 months younger and my hands have been thoroughly full.

DS1 is due to start preschool next week so we thought we'd give potty training a go today and see how it goes......no successes at all. 5 wees and 1 poo all done in the pants. He's excited to be wearing pants, he's excited to sit on the large chair-like potty and he knows the theory behind it. But it seems he can't release into the potty - he can sit there for 10 mins, get up and immediately pee on the floor.

Is this a sign he's not ready? Or is this perfectly normal? If he has no successes tomorrow I want to throw the towel in but DH thinks we need to persevere now that we've started.

Any tips would be very gratefully received!

Harverinalovesxmassandwiches Sun 04-Jan-15 00:11:51

I think you need to persevere now that you have started. You will only send mixed messages if you go back to nappies now.

I used the gina ford guide to potty training when dd was 2 years 7 months.

I can't remember the exact details as I no longer have the book but here are my main tips:

- stay at home for the first 2/3 days. The first outing should be a walk nearby. The second somewhere a bit further with a toilet available. On day 4 we walked to the village and dd did a poo in the library and a pee in the cafe.

- one day one we took dd and sat her on the potty every 15 minutes and encouraged her to sit for 5+ minutes. I reduced this as the days went on but constantly asked her if she needed a pee pee and pointed her to the potty, reminding her it was there. We went from telling her to go on the potty to telling her it was there and asking if she needed to use it.

- accidents were cleared away with I recriminations and no major upset.

- once the nappies were off they stayed off! No going back and forward to suit us as that is just confusing. Bedtime is the exception of course. Some people use nappies for naps initially but we chose not to and didn't have any issues.

- you really need to be 100% focused on it for the first week, and especially for the first few days when you are at home/on the initial outings.

Hope this helps!

Kittymum03 Sun 04-Jan-15 06:25:02

Hi,since I started it's been bare bottom all the time at home,could you give this a try? Then he can see and watch the results if he has an accident.this was a normal stage for me,he would say he needed one,sit there,then run off and go on the floor,I didn't make a big deal when he had an accident,just got the 'wee wee spray' and he liked to have a wipe and 'help' me clean it up smile I didn't give up once I'd started (although some when I posted on here said I should) we got a second pot,so one upstairs and one down,and this really seemed to help,as he really likes to use the one upstairs next to the toilet best and would hold it in until he got upstairs.and he just seemed to stop that stage and only now goes on the pot,very occasionally on the downstairs one.I did stop asking him though and just let him go when he needs to go,as to be honest when I was asking him more often than not he wouldn't want to go,he's very independent and think he wanted to make that choice for himself! How does yours get on with this,are you reminding him or does he take himself? I would say hang in there if you can,I know how frustrating it is,believe me! He's now getting the nang of wearing pants at home (still nappy for nap,bed)

NoSnotAllowed Sun 04-Jan-15 09:28:51

Thank you for the replies. I think his main issue is that he is so play orientated that he doesn't want to stop playing for the length of time it takes to sit on the potty. He's very possessive over toys so he doesn't want to put them down to use the potty incase DS2 then picks them up and 'steals' them.

We've already had an accident this morning and he's only been in pants for an hour. I really bloody hate this. If he could just do one on the potty then it'd give me some conviction to carry on. As it stands at the moment I would quite happily let him live in nappies until he's a teenager!!

LizzieMint Sun 04-Jan-15 09:33:25

Personally I'd put a nappy back on and try again in a month or so. My three were all potty trained when they asked for it, so they were very motivated and it was really easy.
They were all totally dry within a couple of days. Age varied from 2.5 to 3.5. I'm a big fan of making life as easy as possible for yourself!

alix89 Sun 04-Jan-15 16:09:20

Hi, I have the same problem with my son who is 3.5 and still in nappies but i desperately want to get him potty trained before he starts school in April. He sometimes tells me when he has had a no 2 but other times doesn't and he has been a late developer for almost every milestone there is like walking at 17 months and still has on going speech problems which is getting better with therapy sessions and nursery. He doesn't seem to have much self-awareness and i am too terrified and haven't a clue what to do or how to get him ready. Also, he has very lose stools which is also playing on my mind when it comes to taking off the nappy and letting him wear pants but they are also getting better and according to the docs and hospital, its toddlers diarrhea which fingers crossed appears to be settling down. I need help to in the potty training area. Has anyone every potty trained 2 children at the same time as my daughter who is 2.5 is very sharp and knows when she has been and tells me and also asks to sit on the toilet where as my son is very sheepish about sitting there for any length of time.

NoSnotAllowed Sun 04-Jan-15 18:24:07

He's had no nappy at all today and has had 2 accidents followed by 2 wees in the potty so I think we're making progress. No sign of a poo yet today though....

Kittymum03 Sun 04-Jan-15 18:59:24

That's great it seems like you are getting there.does he have any special potty toys? Or a sticker chart? They may help as encouragement. some kids take a little longer but they all get there in the end! the problem with mine was he would look for the pots all the time and wanted to know where they were,even if he didn't use them,so I couldn't take them away to try again later,as it felt mean.

MaccaPaccaismyNemesis Sun 04-Jan-15 21:49:45

We used a reward chart and pirate Petes potty book. A potty in every room and a special trip to buy pants. We are getting there- the odd accident when he gets too involved in play. Training pants were very useful- they go in the wash/tumble drier and catch little accidents- they are reusable so much better than pull ups as they don't feel like nappies. DS is 3 in a few weeks. Good luck and keep it up. smile

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