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2 year old boy refuses to go on potty and can't keep his 18 mth sis off it

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zophia123 Fri 21-Mar-14 10:46:24

I started potty training my son a while ago when he was around 2yrs 5mths. It went as well as could be expected for the first 3 weeks. We had a star chart and he loved getting the stickers. then he got bored. Refused to go most of the time until we got ourselves in such a mess, it was very very stressful, so i put him back in nappies which is how its been for the last 3 months.
Two weeks ago, I decided to tackle it again. I did it by the book, but this time no stickers. I used half a giant chocolate button instead. He did really well but i can now see it going the way it went before. He knows he needs to go but just plain doesn't want to. Yesterday we had two poo accidents and a wee one…. been ok today so far but i can tell he's holding it in. I make sure when he goes he sees how happy we are and over play the hugs, high fives and treats.
I'm happy for him to wear nappies at night but they are always dry when i take them off in the morning.
Really don't know what to do. He does two half days at nursery and is great for them!!
He has an older sister who is now 11 and i had her potty trained by 2! And his younger sister who is 18 months keeps sitting on the potty every opportunity she gets… She's more ready than he is, i'm tempted to give her a go?
Please help i'm running out of ideas for him, and i'm starting to get cross with him which i know is completely not helping. He looks really disappointed when he has an accident, but his playing is what he would rather be doing other than sitting on the potty.

HolidayCriminal Fri 21-Mar-14 10:48:24

Give her a go & don't pressure the lad. Chocolate buttons for every poo helped mine to focus, btw.

ScottishInSwitzerland Wed 26-Mar-14 19:33:02

I don't think 2.5 is that old for a boy to not be trained.

I'm sure I've read/heard that the worst thing you can do is pressurise them. So I would try to play it down.

It's hard I know. Potty training is the thing I'm dreading most with my dd2

TheGreatHunt Wed 26-Mar-14 19:35:58

Just take his pants off and have potties around the place. Don't make a big deal at all whatsoever if he makes a mess. If he does go, give a quick cuddle and say yes that is where you wee/poo! And that's it.

If he holds in poos then use a choc button. But not for wees.

Twunk Wed 26-Mar-14 19:45:50

Both DSs were over 3 when toilet trained (DS2 was not that far off 4!) and never used potties. I waited until they were ready and simply put a pair of pants on them. Very few accidents.

Both ways are perfectly valid, but I found waiting until they were ready to do it themselves far far easier!

crazykat Wed 26-Mar-14 19:45:58

2.5 isn't old to not be potty trained. My ds1 was just over 3 when he was potty trained but he went straight from nappies to pants with no accidents.

Dd2 is 3.4 and will not use the potty or toilet. She just plain doesn't want to and nothing will convince her to use it, she'd rather be playing and doesn't care whether she's sat in wet pants. She just puts them in the wash and goes and gets dry ones.

If he isn't ready then no amount of rewards or cajoling will get him to use the potty/toilet. If your dd is ready then try potty training her, it might even spur your ds on to use the toilet.

HSMMaCM Wed 26-Mar-14 22:32:14

If he sees his sister doing it he might want to do it, just because he wants to prove he's the big brother. He's not too old though, so don't worry.

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