Straw poll - give up or carry on?

[MamOfTwo]

Trying to train DD2 - Last week (half term) put her in knickers. She weed on the potty/toilet if I asked her if she needed one but never sat on it of her own accord and has never said "I need a wee". She had a lot of accidents. This week, I have put her in potty training pants for school run (I know this is confusing but didn't know how else to manage it) and she is in knickers at home. Same thing is happening - will go if asked but has already had two accidents this afternoon. She is 3 in two weeks. (Just to add, DD1 was trained at 2.3 fairly painlessly but I can't remember how I achieved that now!) So, should I carry on now I have started or give up and go back to nappies again until she seems a bit more ready? How long does it generally take before they recognise they need a wee and sit on the potty themselves??

[MamOfTwo]

So, I decided to carry on but now feel like definitely quitting! I thought we were getting somewhere as there were less accidents but today we seem to be back at Day 1 status. Still yet to hear "I need a wee". Shall I carry on carrying on and just accept it is going to take her longer to 'get it' than DD1?

[MamOfTwo]

I know nobody else is reading this thread and I am talking to myself but my DD has just said "I need a wee" and gone to the potty herself. Those four little words have made so happy! I know there is a long road ahead but feeling more positive today (yesterday was awful - see previous post!). Yay!

[VerucaInTheNutRoom]

Hello, sounds like it's all heading in the right direction! Well done. It's a slog isn't it? Our DD(3 last week) is just out of pull ups (still has them for nights). We had lots of accidents the first few days, including a poo left next to her bed, but this week has been much better.

[livingthegoodlife]

well done! we are still in the stage where i have to ask him to go to the potty and occasionally remind himhe gets a treat for going (if he is reluctant). he hasnt told me very often he wants to go. sometimes he just says 'potty' and nods his head vigorously!

[MamOfTwo]

Argh! I really thought we would have cracked it by now but DD is nowhere near 'potty trained'. She will wee on potty/loo when prompted and occasionally take herself off to do it but she always poos in her knickers. I feel so ground down by it all and feel like we are never going to get there. I thought leaving it later would make it easier. DD just turned 3 and her older sister trained at 2.3. So far, we have been using stickers as rewards but am seriously considering switching to chocolate buttons which I swore I wouldn't do! Argh, just needed to vent. Give me strength!

[MajesticWhine]

Keep going, don't give up now. It's miserable but you will get there. I would throw everything at it, chocolate buttons or whatever else you can think of. Have you read poo goes to poo-land to her? That helped a bit with DD3 who was a bit hopeless with poos.

[clabsyqueen]

STRENGTH!!!

[clabsyqueen]

You know what to do. You have all the skills. Maybe just accept a slightly longer timescale.

[clabsyqueen]

My dd at 2.7 has shown she knows when she needs a wee but won't ask to go for a poo. Has far more poo accidents than wee. Thus confounding all the 'experts'.

[juneau]

Yup - we're going through this too. DS2 is 2.10 and I really want to get him potty trained as I'm getting pressure now from his nursery, so he can move up to the next class, and from his speech therapist (to prove that he can be potty trained with the 'normal' time frame). We're doing really well with wees, but only if I prompt him. So far he hasn't asked to go once or taken himself off to the potty (and we're on day four). As for poos, we've had a 100% failure rate. What's really, really frustrating is that last summer, when he was 2.2, he was weeing on the potty of his own accord, but because we were going on holiday and he just couldn't get the hang of poos in the potty I put him in pull-ups. I so wish I'd persevered now. sigh.

[juneau]

Yay! A poo in the potty! Actually, two. I'm so happy. Day six and I was getting quite fed up with pooey pants. The secret, for DS2 at least, seems to be to put the potty in front of the telly after meal times and to let him run around with a bare bottom. He just took himself off and sat down and voila! I'm a very proud mama even if no one else reads this.

[ListWriter]

Woohoo! Well done! Our DS (2.6yr) is totally not interested in potty training at the mo but am lurking on this topic, trying to get prepared!

[Catetwins]

We are only successful when nude. As soon as clothes are on it all goes out of the window.
I just feel so unhappy and like mamoftwo 'ground down'.
Potty training twins is miserable but part of my twin mum persona means I never say that kind of thing out loud.

[MamOfTwo]

Just checking in to say DD has still not got it. Sigh. She is now nearly 3.2. Will wee on potty when prompted but is making no attempts to get there herself and just wets herself. Not bothered about it at all. Still pooing in her knickers. I just feel like crying. I don't understand why she can't train. Been trying since February. Sincerely hope everyone on this thread is getting on well. Potty training sucks!

[eatabix]

It's true potty training is rubbish. I'm fed up with the constant 'wee watch'. See my other post... we've got a whole other problem!

There is so much pressure from people, nurseries etc. Horrible. Everyone though at the same time tells you to relax as they'll pick up on the stress... easier said than done!!! Hang in there xxx

[MamOfTwo]

So, DD did a poo in the toilet today! Still don't think we've cracked potty training at all but am I celebrating that poo today? Hell, yes!

[MamOfTwo]

. That is all. Very fed up! I don't think my DD will ever potty train. Panicking that she will be starting school in nappies!

[smogsville]

Hi there. In the hope that it might make you feel better not to be alone, we also appear to be going backwards with dd who is 2.8. Seemed to have cracked it a few weeks ago - we were awarding a big choc button for a whole day's dry knickers - but now it's just a joke. Must be on fourth pair so far today. The really weird thing is she is fine at nursery - and she does go there, I've asked. I have dropped sample into doctors just to check for UTI as per other threads but not expecting a positive on this. She talks about wees at great length, how she's a big girl now who doesn't have nappies except at night etc and then yet again we have to change her. She's getting sore patches at top of her legs now because of the wee. Argh. I'm afraid I'm not managing to keep cool at all and neither is my husband. I really didn't think it would be this hard! We started in feb half term when she was 2.4/5 because we bought a potty for her to sit on and she said she wanted to do wees on it. The worst thing is how changeable she is from one hour to the next - this morning she sat doing a wee and showed me her dry knickers and was so pleased to tell me they were dry, an hour later wet again. Don't want to go back to pull-ups or training pants but equally not sure how to proceed!

[DomesticGoddess31]

How's it going MamofTwo? We're in the same boat. DD is nearly 3 and we started potty training 2 weeks ago and getting nowhere with it. She can wee /poo on the loo or potty if I put her there but almost never tells us when she needs to go. Bribery is not working. I've made the decision to put her back in nappies tomorrow I think. She's in a foul mood and the washing mountain is grinding me down. So disappointed and now wondering if she'll ever be trained

[gamescompendium]

Poor you and poor girl. I'd put her in pull ups, encourage her to go regularly, but at least then you don't need to deal with pooey pants (yeu). Celebrate the successes, ignore the disappointments.

[MamOfTwo]

Just seen these most recent replies! It does help to know that I am not alone - thank you! Have just started another thread about how the cold turkey approach is not working for us either... .

[MamOfTwo]

Bumping this as after a break we are going to try again! Although DD now 3.6 and STILL will only go if prompted. Any advice welcomed!

[MyMummyRuns]

Just found your thread hope the last month has led to a break through. I've started DD (2.6) morning and already on the verge of quitting! DS (5) was a dream to train - started at 2.2, used gina ford as a loose guide and all done within a week. DD on the other hand is a frigging nightmare - I think she's ready just has zero interest and she's so bloody stubborn and strong willed cannot get her to sit on the potty or toilet at all! Nappy came off at 8.30am since then we've had 2 accidents and zero wees on the potty or toilet so she obviously has some control of her bladder. Thinking perhaps I should just leave it now til she instigates it, but what if that's never???? It's definitely easier when they're younger - wish I'd never left it til this late!

[MamOfTwo]

MyMummyRuns - no break through sadly! Although last few weeks have seen some progress. Started again in earnest in October half term. Sticker chart seems to be working better this time - think DD now 'gets' incentives (ie 10 stickers = treat). Less wet accidents, or if she starts to wee she is aware of it and attempts to get to potty. She still doesn't seem to be receiving the signal that tells her she needs to go though!