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Potty training with a buried/small penis....not going please?

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worriedmum6 Thu 23-Jan-14 09:42:09

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poopooheadwillyfatface Thu 23-Jan-14 09:44:16

is he having some kind of surgical correction in the future? it doesn't sound like he can be left like this long term

LtGreggs Thu 23-Jan-14 09:45:26

Didn't want to read and run.

LtGreggs Thu 23-Jan-14 09:45:26

Didn't want to read and run.

LtGreggs Thu 23-Jan-14 09:49:31

Or post too soon - sorry.

I don't have any direct experience of the problem, but two thoughts:

- Many children wee all over the place while potty training/learning to use the toilet. My two DS, with 'normal' penis's have both done so on occasion - it takes a while to learn how to direct the flow reliably, and there are still mistakes in to primary school. So your DS has more difficulty, but he won't be the only one getting wee on floor, clothes etc.

- Talk to school / nursery about it. If he has reason to need to remove more clothes, they should help him to do that.

Is there a longer term plan for further correction, or will he need to manage with how he currently is?

worriedmum6 Thu 23-Jan-14 09:54:45

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shoom Thu 23-Jan-14 09:54:56

Are you in continuing contact with anyone medical about your son's condition? He isn't the only one, and hopefully occupational therapy or his team may have some ideas. Initially I thought of a toddler urinal, they are available in Aus and you could possibly fashion something similar yourself (but I'd hope OT can help). Here's the info and video guide.

Regarding preschool, they should deal with this sensitively and adjust their rules to meet your son's needs, as with any other medical issue.

Your post is so compassionate, and your son sounds lovely. Hopefully your fears for the future will be alleviated before he reaches that stage. Who knows what will be available by then?

shoom Thu 23-Jan-14 09:55:32

Aaagh! The checkbox should convert by default!

shoom Thu 23-Jan-14 09:58:22

Cross-posted, 3.5cm sounds fine, it's the positional retraction then that's the issue I assume?

worriedmum6 Thu 23-Jan-14 10:00:52

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wigglybeezer Thu 23-Jan-14 10:01:53

He could use a She wee type device ( if you haven't seen one, they are a little funnel that means a woman can pee standing up and clothed in an emergency) I know it would not be ideal at school but it would help at home.

Get a second opinion about further surgery if you can.

MrsMarigold Thu 23-Jan-14 10:02:50

Poor little fellow! You sound like a lovely mum. Good luck no ideas.

PacificDogwood Thu 23-Jan-14 10:03:05

Oh, he and you sound lovely - sorry to hear you are having to deal with this worry.

2 year olds are still naturally quite chubby and the pubic fat pad can be quite pronounced. His penis is likely to 'emerge' a bit between 3 and 4.

3.5cm does not sound terribly small to me, but I can see if his penile shaft retracts when he sits how this could be a problem.

We have a potty with a raised front to increase the chances of randomly spraying penises making less of a mess hmm. Might that help?

DS4(3.10) still likes to take ALL the bottom half of his clothes off to go to the toilet, so I'd keep that a battle for later tbh.

Is he at nursery/preschool yet? I agree, they should just adjust to his issues - it's a special need like any other. I like the idea of the toddler urinal.

MissMilbanke Thu 23-Jan-14 10:03:19

Ah bless you both.

As others have said little boys tend to wee all over the place so school and nursery should have seen that all before

In my mind 3.5cm doesn't sound all that small for a two year old. I have 2 boys but the youngest is 8 now and the elder is a teenager so I've not seen his for years !!!

Don't forget the role hormones will play in later life - it will grow some I would have thought. Why don't you have a chat with your gp again. Surgery might be complete but there might be other options out there.

PacificDogwood Thu 23-Jan-14 10:05:23

Aw, you cannot help to be upset for him because you are looking ahead and are foreseeing problems which he may or may not have in the future. I know I would too. But it does not actually help.
Try and stay in the here and now and deal with the issues right now, not potential future ones.

Has he had an OT assessment?

PacificDogwood Thu 23-Jan-14 10:06:37

He is doing so well to be potty training at 2 - my 4 boys were all around 3 and they had no extra challenges to contend with.

MrsCakesPremonition Thu 23-Jan-14 10:07:47

How do you think he will get on with weeing standing up? He might need a sturdy step to stand on, but toilets in schools and nurseries are usually much tinier and he would be more likely able to manage without a step.

And I agree with pp about all small boys tending to be a bit hit and miss - so he wouldn't be the only one splashing.

shoom Thu 23-Jan-14 10:08:53

I know, of course you feel that way. Can I say though that the right preschool will be sensitive to all the children's needs- he will not be the only child needing assistance with toileting. And he'll be ahead of some peers in some developmental areas and behind them in others. The 2yo I know are oblivious to this, it certainly wouldn't register to mine!

Is your GP able to help access support or another opinion?

worriedmum6 Thu 23-Jan-14 10:13:35

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PacificDogwood Thu 23-Jan-14 10:16:37

Well, people can be fickle - don't read too much in to a broken promise from an internet stranger wink.
Or would you PM then and nudge them for a reply?

My impression is that you have 2 issues here: your DS's physical problems and your anxiety around them. Do speak to your GP about them both thanks

worriedmum6 Thu 23-Jan-14 10:23:01

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PacificDogwood Thu 23-Jan-14 10:26:24

I've just had a google around for support groups for genital malformations.
What is the technical 'name' for his particular problem? It does not sound like he has a hypospadia, does he?

He is not alone, he really is not and he has lots of growing up still to do which will affect the size and shape of his penis.

firstpost Thu 23-Jan-14 10:32:27

If it helps at all my ds is 2.4 yrs and would measure the same. As far as I know he is 'normal' sized; and anyway this bears little indication on how he will measure / look as an adult.

sebsmummy1 Thu 23-Jan-14 10:33:03

Oh that post made me well up as I can just feel your worry and anxiety about it.

I know you said that they have basically discharged your son from care in regard to this problem, however if it was me I would be going back to the doctor (possibly a different doctor?) and asking for advice or a referral explaining that your sons penis is retracting as he urinates.

Be a pushy Mummy and get don't more medical opinion on it if you can xx

sebsmummy1 Thu 23-Jan-14 10:33:40

Don't - some

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