Advice on what to do - DD 2.4

[CakeInMyFace]

My DD is 2.4 years old. This is our second go at using the potty. The first time she was only just 2, but seemed so interested in it, using it regularly etc thought I’d give it a go but soon gave up when I realised she was only doing so well because I continuously put her on the potty every 15 min! She never once initiated it and didn’t seem bothered by being wet etc.

Since then, she has been in pull up’s, and recently starting telling us when she needs a wee or a poo. She is able to dress herself from the waist down, undress and pull her trousers back up again. She’s been refusing to wear nappies and asking for big girl pants, so thought I’d try again and started this week.

Now, at nursery, she has no accidents at all, tells them when she needs to go and often just takes herself apparently. At home yesterday we had so many accidents I lost count. She did do two poos on the potty with a bit of encouragement, and by the end of the day if she started having an accident she would stop herself and finish off in the potty.

How many accidents is too many? Do I stick with it this time? I don’t want to go back and forth too many times, but equally don’t want to push her/stress her if she isn’t ready. WWYD? Would you continue for a few weeks and see what happens? Parenting is such a minefield – I never feel like I make the right decisions!

[spritesoright]

I don't know the right answer but will watch your thread with interest. DD is 2.2 and we recently started potty training at nursery and MIL's suggestion. After two long weekends and a couple of days at nursery with pullups I was ready to give up too. But then she asked for the potty when she got home and did a wee (rather than me having to put her there). So I thought - that's progress!
I know the advice is to wait for a week break and do it then but since nursery are helping it seemed silly not to take up their help given their experience.
Given your account, my instinct would be to stick with it this time. No accidents at nursery?! That's amazing. And if she's stopping herself at home and finishing on the potty that's good news too, surely.
Are you still putting her on the potty regularly at home or just waiting for her to tell you?
The nursery said we should just put her on every 30 minutes regardless of whether she's asked and this seems to work.
I don't know how long to continue if it doesn't start clicking. We have friends who have been potty training for at least 4 months with little progress and I secretly feel they should have given up and tried later. But who am I to judge?

[CakeInMyFace]

Thanks sprite. I think you are right and I'm going to stick with it and give it more of a 'go.' For at least two weeks to give her a chance. If she's capable at nursery, it might be more of a behavioural thing at home. Or it's so structured at nursery she might find it easier there then when she is relaxed at home.
I know what you mean though - we have some friends who have been potty training now for 5 months and their DD still has loads of accidents and I don't want to go down that route either! Good idea about putting her on the potty every 30min - perhaps if I go with her it will help too (they probably take the children altogether at nursery which helps).
Thanks for the reply - it's good to get some other ideas / viewpoints.

[terilou87]

If your dd is managing not to wet herself at nursery it's definitly a behaviour issue at home, my ds was the same we used a sticker chart, use the potty/ toilet get a sticker (we used Thomas it was his fave cartoon at the time) took about a week with ds and no longer needed the sticker chart.

[bumperella]

It does sound like if she can manage at nursery then physiologically she is ready. Emotionally may be a different story.
Is it a "being a big girl" at nursery but being "your baby" at home? Is it structure at nursery? A choice of activities at nursery? I dinno. My DD will wee and poo in the potty for playgroup, for Daddy, and quite possibly for random passers by, but at home with Mummy? Nope, constant stream of wet trousers. I've no idea why this is, nor what to do about it.
I would guess my comments aren't that useful to you!!!