Sorry, this is long.
Have been trying to potty train DS, who is now 3.3, for about three months. He'll happily sit on the potty or toilet, for ages, will wee pretty much whenever put on, and sometimes even poo, but he WILL NOT TELL US when he wants to go, and will often crap his pants even a moment or so after coming off the potty/toilet, even when we've said "Do you think you're going to do a poo?"
We've done all the ra-rah, wow you're wonderful stuff every time he has done a poo on the potty - usually after about 3/4 of an hour sitting there. We've even got a medal he gets to wear after the event, he gets a bit of biscuit, we go "hooray" etc etc.
He'll tell us happily if he does do one. But he just does not seem to understand even the principle of telling us when he needs to go. We've explained it over and over, but he shows no signs of getting it.
Even immediately after we've patiently laid out that if he feels that a poo is coming he needs to say "I need a poo" or even just yell "poo", we'd be happy even with that right now, even if you then ask him right then what he should say if there's a poo he just says "please", which is what he always replies if you say "what do you say?".
It's the same with wees, but he seems happy to squeeze one out whenever put in the appropriate place, so it's less of an issue.
It's got to the point where any sort of outdoor trip is horribly stressful. He's had to go in pull ups to the childminder after an appalling accident created havoc with the poor woman's cream carpets, and she had really done her best up til then.
It's driving us spare, causing arguments and he just does not seem to be progressing at all. If anyone has any advice, I'd be ever, ever so grateful. Should I just give up for a bit? It seems a shame when he's nearly got it with weeing, and at his age I think he should have got it by now, but I just can't face clandestinely rinsing out any more shitty pants in public toilet sinks right now.
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commanderprimate · 28/09/2013 19:52
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