I'm really hopeful that someone can offer me some advice. My dd is 3.6. She showed signs of toileting awareness as early as 9 months but we couldn't act on this in any way as she was in a spica until 13 months old.
Started toilet training at around 18-20 months as she seemed very aware of when she needed to go. Had usual accidents at the start and wasn't too phased at this point. It took almost a year and was almost there and then we moved house/area/ started nursery (prev in childminder care). MAJOR setback that has persisted now for 8 months. Having multiple accidents per day then other days total success. Comes home from nursery sometimes with as many as 5 sets of soiled clothes.
We have tried all sorts to tackle this. Being patient, not acknowledging behaviours to full blown angry. Tried giving incentives; that seemed to work until the minute she get the reward, then behaviour deteriorates totally. Tried leaving for her to tell us to minimise our control; she will show no signs of caring and remain soiled until she get really sore. It all seems so behavioural but nothing seems to work