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When to stop night time lifting

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bebejones Mon 01-Apr-13 14:23:24

My DD will be 5 in August (how did that happen?!?! shock) and currently I still lift her for a wee when I go to bed. Our only toilet is downstairs (very old house) so she has a potty in her room which she is starting to get a bit big for. She has had about 2 wet beds in the past year WITH me lifting her at 10-10.30 ish, both times when she was ill and coughing. She does sometimes get up in the morning and have a wee on her potty if we aren't awake but generally she won't leave her room until she hears that me or DH are awake and up and about.

So when should I stop lifting her? I genuinely have no idea if she can make it through the night without me lifting her but worried that she's got into the habit of going when I pick her up. (I'm lucky that she's small because she doesn't wake up and is usually completely dead weight!) She's been completely dry during the day since she was about 2.5. Some nights when I go in to her she has already had a wee on the potty. She does have a drink before bed, and always goes to the toilet before going upstairs. She goes to bed about 7-7.30 and usually goes to sleep around 8-8.30, but she doesn't get up and mess about, just plays and 'reads'. Not sure I would trust her to go up and down the stairs in the night on her own, and she won't sleep with a nightlight, it has to be dark! Any advice greatly appreciated!

Brownowlahi Sun 07-Apr-13 17:04:56

Hi, I stopped lifting dd when she was 4 3/4. It occurred to me that her younger brother who was 2 1/2 was not being lifted, so thought I should give it a go, not lifting her. She would then wake up in the night to go, but could do this herself. Not sure about the stair situation though. Could you leave the downstairs light on so there was some way she could see, but then it wouldn't disturb her sleep?

BettyandDon Sun 07-Apr-13 17:11:27

I have never heard of lifting a child to the toilet late in the evenings. Surely if she needs the toilet she would wake up and call for help? Is it a bit like having a dream feed for toilet training?

I have a DD who is 2.5 and she just yelps in the night if she needs. She can't get all the doors open herself yet. I imagine she'll need help for a while. Most nights she doesn't get up unless she's drunk a lot (if she hadn't eaten much).

bebejones Tue 09-Apr-13 22:01:03

Trouble is she is a really heavy sleeper, I'm not 100% convinced that she would wake!

Also getting to the bathroom means going through the dining room and kitchen where our cats are shut in at night without letting them out! Also our stairs are very steep so I don't think I would be happy for her to be roaming around the house on her own so she would have to wake me or DH up which she doesn't ever seem to do, even in the mornings she usually waits until we are up before leaving her room!

At the moment my current thinking is to wait for warmer weather (easier to get bedding dry) and just see how she goes without any lifting.

Unlurked Tue 09-Apr-13 22:19:50

We just stopped lifting dd a couple of months ago. She'll be five next month. We decided to lift her rather than keep her in nappies once she had grown out of the cloth nappies she was in (so aaages ago!). We discovered she was dry all night when mil forgot to lift her when she stayed over one night. She's been dry ever since, occasionally she'll get up to the toilet first thing in the morning.

I think your plan to wait for warmer weather is a good one (or you could use bed mats if summer turns out not to be summery!) I would start waking her when you're taking her to the toilet before then though just so she's aware that she is going to the toilet at night time.

Clueless2727 Thu 11-Apr-13 21:13:36

Try lifting her earlier and earlier until it's not worth it. Don't know if it'll work as just started potty training ds at night but i am going to try that approach as don't want to be lifting long

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