She's pointing to her nappy and saying bum when she feels she wants to be changed (she hates being changed though) and she also says poo (boooooo) when she feels shes going to need a squeeze but she rarely gets this right and I'm wondering whether sitting her on the potty (as suggested by older relatives) is well...potty?
Maria Montessori (as in Montessori education) identified a 'toilet learning' window between 12 & 18 months. As Gadabout suggests, you could give it a go and see what happens! Just stick her on the potty (if she's happy to sit on it) when she says poo, and you could do it when you change her nappy too, you might just catch a wee and save yourself a nappy change. My mum potty 'trained' us in this way, as has a friend with her two LOs. I don't think it's too early - just make sure there's no pressure.
DD would poo on the potty from about 18months and was dry day and night before she was 2. BUT I trained DS just before he turned 3 and she was 15ish months so would sit next to him on the potty and saw him getting rewards etc and understood the process (I think)
It won't hurt to sit her on the potty, but she might not be ready for full potty training
You could just offer the potty when you think she might need it - when she wakes from a nap, after a meal/drink and also stick her on it when you change her nappy. See how it goes. She might love it and really take to it! Or she might be like my DD - have some days when she's really keen and others when she doesn't want to go near the potty! I see it as giving her opportunities to go somewhere other than her nappy.
My daughter will soon turn out 2 and she still poos in the diaper and refuses roughly to poo in the toilet.many times i tried to take her to the toilet but the reaction was screaming and crying.what should i do in this case?how can i train her to use the toilet instead?