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Anyone experienced this, continued & been successful?

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ThatsNotAKnifeThatsASpoon Fri 22-Feb-13 18:21:22

This is our second attempt at potty training dd (2.10). Day one, 6 accidents, nothing in potty. She knows just as she's going but refuses to sit on potty or toilet, saying "I can't".

Have tried all usual incentives, treats, stickers, surprise, present. Potty has been hanging around she'd get used to it.

She seems to find it funny once she's gone that I am cleaning her up & getting new pants/leggings. Last time we had a few successful wees in potty but gave up after 3 days when poo finally showed up & she got very upset. This time is different as she won't countenance potty.

It's only day 1 but am fed up. Would you continue, has this worked successfully for others?

KD0706 Fri 22-Feb-13 21:28:38

If it was me I would stick her back in nappies and try again when she wants to potty train.

But then I am a lazy mummy so you may not want to listen to me.

ThatsNotAKnifeThatsASpoon Fri 22-Feb-13 22:40:04

What if she doesn't want to potty train? I think she's physically ready but she's very stubborn,& for whatever reason she didn't want to so this. But I fear if I leave it another few months I'll just have the same battle again with the same result if I give up after only a day or two.

Managed to get her to sit on the potty before bed time with much cajoling, no action but hoping she'll be more likely to sit on it tomorrow during the day when she needs to go. Progress?...

MayMiracle Sat 23-Feb-13 13:33:15

My dd is also 2.10 and we have been trying for about 4/5 days. Very few successes and lots of accidents. She is quite taken with the notion of wearing big girl pants, but seems to have no concept of when she needs to go. Always, saying she doesn't need to wee and then moments later having an accident. I am finding it very challenging and struggling to not get frustrated. But, I think to go back now would confuse her even more. It's such a tricky one! Be great to hear how you get on over coming days...

ThatsNotAKnifeThatsASpoon Sat 23-Feb-13 13:53:13

Hi May, sounds similar to our experience. We've switched to putting her on the toilet rather than the potty, it's getting a little easier but still involves some manhandling which I hate. We're putting her on every half hour or so but she also seems to be holding it til she's off them having an accident.

I would have thought at this age she is physiologically ready but maybe I'm wrong?

So sick of comments on how late we are training her & we're certainly not experiencing the fabled 'easy' training even though we've left it late!

Hope your day is going ok

NickNacks Sat 23-Feb-13 14:06:17

My dd is exactly the same! I could have written this OP. My DD is 2.6, very articulate, and def knows all about needing a wee and poo, she hides in the hall to go but will not sit on the toilet or potty to do it. She just says 'I don't need to go anymore' (and then promptly wees on the floor!).

MayMiracle Sat 23-Feb-13 14:08:37

Yes, we are living parallel lives smile

We also are not experiencing the 'she will get it in 2 days' now she is older, as everyone suggests. She is one of the last of her peers to be still in nappies.

We just spent two hours at soft play taking it in turns between us to take her to the toilet with no success. She then wet herself moments after we got into the car.

But lots of advice I have read, seems to suggest it is cold turkey now, so to go back would be too confusing.

Although, I did speak to my GP about it a few weeks ago and she said she would be in no hurry, and not concerned at this stage/ age.

Agghh! You have my empathy.

ThatsNotAKnifeThatsASpoon Sun 24-Feb-13 11:04:11

That's good to hear that GP would not be concerned. Maybe if I did wait longer it would be easier but I feel she can do this, albeit it will be a real struggle as she us very stubborn and a creature of habit who does not like change!

Day 3 here and no wee so far - wondering if she is subconsciously holding it in? We had one proper wee success yesterday & accidents the rest. Still struggling to get her to sit in toilet at all. Cabin fever setting in also!

ThatsNotAKnifeThatsASpoon Sun 24-Feb-13 12:44:25

Wee finally arrived - had only about 2 seconds notice before she weeed on me as I carried her to the toilet. Does this indicate those might be in vain - she's not able to feel the sensation in time to make it to the toilet?

She won't sit on the toilet otherwise at all today sad

OutsideOverThere Sun 24-Feb-13 12:52:18

Seriously, I'd give up pushing it for now.

they always do it in the end - it's not a question of 'what if she never wants to' because research showed that even kids who were never introduced to a potty or toilet eventually find somewhere of their own, privately, like the corner of a farmyard! in one example. It's a natural thing to do.

Physiologically they go through tages - knowingthey have done a wee/poo, knowing it's happening now but not able to predict or stop it, knowing it's about to happen but not quite in time to stop, and lastly, having enough advance warning to get to the loo.

I have never trained my children, it happened around 3 with both, so far - no arguing, crossness, incentives or rewards needed and mainly, VERY few accidents!

So it's possible that making a big issue of it might set her against the idea rather than encourage her to do it iyswim.

ThatsNotAKnifeThatsASpoon Sun 24-Feb-13 13:12:02

Outside thanks for replying, your feedback is very useful. I have heard similar from some people so it's food for thought. I was thinking as we had some progress yesterday that it was worth continuing but today we've gone backwards. Will definitely give your advice some serious consideration. Thanks again.

MayMiracle Sun 24-Feb-13 19:37:04

Thank you Outside, what you say makes sense. We have had a few successes today, but only with lots and lots of prompting. I am going to give it a few more days and make a call after that. I don't want to turn it into a battle.

OutsideOverThere Mon 25-Feb-13 07:21:53

It's ok. I have done everything the lazy way grin

Not that's it May - there's no need for it to be a battle. They all get there in the end. And it is lovely when they do!

ThatsNotAKnifeThatsASpoon Tue 26-Feb-13 22:16:04

How is everyone getting on?

Just thought I'd update to let you know we're having some success now at end of day 5 with both poo and pee in the toilet. We still have accidents but today dd was indicating when she needed to go - it was a matter of getting there in time.

I'm really encouraged by this and am determined to see this through.

Hope things are going well for you MayMiracle and NickNacks.

TheYamiOfYawn Tue 26-Feb-13 22:23:45

DS was physically ready a little bit after he turned 2, but he really didn't want to come out of nappies. I tried a couple of times, and he wad fine and accurate if naked, but treated pants Luke nappies. At 3 years 4 months he decided he wanted pants and was dry straight away. He still asks for a nappy for pooing in, but I'm confident that that will come to an end soon. A month on, and he's dry at night, too.

ThatsNotAKnifeThatsASpoon Tue 26-Feb-13 22:30:03

Dd loves her pants fortunately, but we did have an issue initially of her treating them like nappies too - as long as mum was there to clean up she was happy to soil them. Thankfully we seem to be getting past that (don't want to jinx myself though!).

I'll tell you what though, the Gina Ford technique of asking them to sit on the potty every 15 minutes has really done nothing for us. She only goes when she needs to go - like the rest of us I suppose!

MayMiracle Thu 28-Feb-13 15:18:57

Good news Knife...

Yes, some success here too. But a fair few accidents too smile I feel like ere are too far down the road to turn back now though.

DD seems to be grasping it a bit more each day, but does need prompting.

I am glad it is working for you too!

Here's to a nappy free future...

ThatsNotAKnifeThatsASpoon Thu 28-Feb-13 21:55:26

Yes, much the same here. I can usually tell when dd is about to go and bring her to the loo but if anyone else is in charge they usually miss it so hence some accidents.

Can't imagine going back to nappies though (not having to deal with pooey nappies is great!)

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