I know DS needs the toilet, he refuses to go - HELP!

[Trazzletoes]

Hi, I've just started potty training DS - he's been clean and dry in childcare for a few days but over the weekend with me, made it clear that he doesn't want to stop what he's doing to go to the toilet/potty. (He hates our potty so we're just putting him on one of those toilet seats).

SPoke to HV about this yesterday and she said to take him out of nappies straightaway, childcare agreed so today he's toddled off (he's 2.10) in his big boy pants. Fingers crossed! Last night, he had been clean and dry in childcare all day but hadn't done a poo. Normally, then, he will do a poo around 6.45. Just before this, I asked him to go to the toilet - cue: big tantrum screaming at me and flatly refusing. He then went to the toilet in his nappy...

He was tired, which I guess explains a lot, but this has happened a few times over the last week, including the one evening we tried him with pants on.

Obviously I can't force him to sit on the toilet, I'm guessing if I did this would no doubt scare him and make him want to use it less... do I just need to let him get on with it in his pants and hope that one day he realises poo in your pants is just nasty? (When he did poo in his pants last week, he went mental at the prospect of me changing him and ran round the whole house to avoid me) or does anyone have any good suggestions to get him to see the toilet as fun?

He gets stickers for using the toilet...

[megandraper]

Can you get a more comfortable potty for him? He's quite young to be sitting on the loo - I'm sure some children do it, but many (mine included) feel insecure on a loo until they're older - esp for a poo.

Then maybe rewards (choc buttons?) for sitting on there, whether or not he does anything?