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Little accident every day at home!

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jenduck · 05/12/2011 19:03

I am posting this not really for help (although any suggestions would be gratefully received) but out of sheer frustration, really!

DS is 3 in a couple of weeks & has been out of nappies, night and day, since we came back off our holiday at the end of July. He is able to stay dry through 3 hour car journeys, through exciting soft-play parties, overnight, at his grandparents' house, at nursery - the list goes on. However, every time that we spend a whole morning/afternoon/day at home, just me & him & DS2 (nearly 8 months) he does a wee in his pants. Not a big one, more of an oops, didn't get there in time, but finishes it on the toilet.

I don't know if this is because he gets distracted playing/watching TV, like I say, it only ever happens at home. We have recently taken away the potty downstairs & encourage him to go the toilet upstairs on his own. The trouble is he doesn't go straight there, he messes around on the stairs & with the stairgate & with fetching a step for the toilet etc. We really don't want to go back to having a potty downstairs.

I have made it clear to him that it is not OK to do a wee in his pants & that it makes Mummy sad & he says he understands & won't do it again (is very good at talking so can express himself very clearly). And he doesn't while he is elsewhere. Then he does when we are at home again.

DH seems to blame me & says that I should be taking him every hour, whether or not he says he needs it, standing over him while he does it - ignoring baby, housework, phone calls, or whatever else I should be doing. But this seems like a massive step backwards to me & is not always feasible anyway! I will try having no TV on during the day at all to see if that helps, but I am just stuck & so fed up with this!

Sorry for the rant, I have just seen how long this is Blush, so thanks if you got this far. Just needed to get this out & am having a very bad day, anyway Sad

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jenduck · 07/12/2011 08:34

I guess it's just my DS with this problem then Xmas Confused

Anyway, at home this morning so will take him hourly to the toilet.

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BertieBotts · 07/12/2011 08:40

You could get him to tell you when he needs to go and go with him and chivvy him along - maybe use a reward chart or something for getting there quickly?

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yawningmonster · 07/12/2011 08:48

To be honest I would actually take completely opposite track and ignore, ignore, ignore. If he comes to you when he is wet then give him some clean clothes (can he put them on himself? if not just put it on him and direct him to put the wet ones in the laundry. Make it very low key and very little attention focus on it. At the same time if he is out and about, at nursery, at grandparents or any other time that he stays dry up the praise, tell him how well he can control his wees and how pleased you are about it.
Basically the good old praise the behaviour you want more of and ignore the behaviour you want less of scenario.

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jenduck · 07/12/2011 09:00

Some food for thought there, thanks. He is already pretty good at telling me when he needs to go, just takes forever getting there, so going with him could well work!

Will also try upping the praise for when he is dry & not really mentioning accidents.

Fingers crossed!

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jenduck · 07/12/2011 20:41

We tried all of the above today...and he stayed dry all day! Too early to celebrate really, I guess, but I feel it's a victory! One day at a time Smile

Thanks again for the advice, it obviously helped

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