Potty Training , HELP !!!

[Xanniiismypanda]

OK so my lo turned 3 last fortnight and i wasnt really worried about Potty training until today , When i had to take him to see the emergency doctor (asthmatic) and when the Doctor realised he is still in nappies I got a right lecture about this and him still having his bottle when tired/ill , Ended up leaving the Doctor's very distressed thinking there is something seriously wrong with my lo .
He is my first child and i have tried introducing him to Potty training , He will sit on the Toilet/Potty for hours but when he needs a wee he jumps off and puts a Pull up on , He does not like wearing underpants or boxers and wont run round naked either , I honestly give up and after the lecture from the Doctor i just dont know what to do .

[cavegirl123]

have you tried reading books about the potty i used to read one called on your potty baa. maybe try concentrating on showing your child that other boys and girls use the potty without sounding like you are pressuring because this only adds anxiety. have you got friends whos children use the potty that you could be around and show them praise this might be encouraging for your child to at least think about it at first. at the age of 3 as well does your child understand no pennies for nappies they are all gone how would your child cope if there was no nappies about because i definatley would not advise to distress your child if this idea would not work. maybe your child is conscious of the fact the potty is out in the open and is pee shy i mean i know i am haha is there a more private corner to put the potty in because at 3 he may be more conscious of the fact people are watching. if you can get the nappy off him and perservere with him wetting himself without telling him off and just saying never mind because shouting can only cause them to wet themselves more he may not like feeling wet and try to use the potty or maybe he would prefer to use the toilet like a big boy anyway just some ideas you might be able to try hope i have helped. dont listen to much to people who say they should be doing this or they should be doing that because there is not always a problem all children are individual and do things in their own time and im sure you are doing a wanderfull job of raising him

[Cleek]

I had a lot of problems with my dd2 with her potty train for over a year especially with her 2nds. Until someone gave me the idea that I need to create a kind of a ceremony to make her feel and visualise that she?s grown up to the next girl stage. So I told my dd2 that she would have a birthday party (as she never had one before) and involved her in organising invitations and giving out cakes to her playgroup children etc. Before hand I made her promise that after this party she must do her 2 nd like a big girl in the toilet. Also after the party next day I clear all the high chair, nappies and potties etc to make the Big Girl statement very apparent. Hooray! It worked like magic! She accepted it and she uses the toilet ever since ?? no accident anymore.

[cavegirl123]

i think that is an excellent idea cleek :0) well done in finding that one!! i think with children its allowing them time and space to do things their way and how they feel comfortable or proud of, and as adults we are the same :0)

[Xanniiismypanda]

I have tried every which way possible :(

[Cleek]

Xanniiismypanda tbh so did I! My dd2 was the same she would sit on the toilet for a very long time then at the last minute she jumped up and ran around and asked for a nappy. In the end she gave up on me. She just poo in her pants every time when I was cooking tea in the kitchen so that I could not be in the same room with her. She did the same in playgroup she just would not ask to go to toilet for her 2nds. This situation went on for many weeks may be months. So I had to allow her to have her nappies back again just to regain her trust then work on her again. Even the health visitor gave up on us after several visits on the issue. I was left on my own again. I knew she was ready as she was able to control and do it when she wanted to. I never knew why she would not do it in the toilet. I don?t know if my dd2 knew either. I'd read about 3 or 4 popular potty training books as well but none of the books was any help to me. I believe it was about helping her to develop that will power and acceptance to overcome whatever issue she had. good luck

[brettgirl2]

All good advice the dr sounds like an arrogant prat to me. Whatever his opinion having a go at the parent of a 3 year old in a nappy is just .

[Xanniiismypanda]

Thanks everybody , he is petrified of anyform of underwear -go figure- guess its just persevere (???)