Night toilet training a 5 year old

[henryhsmum]

Hi, My DS is 5yrs 7 months. Day time toilet trained but not night. He was slow to day toilet train, dry by 4 but only clean about 9 months ago. He has ASD which further complicates it and to be honest the pooing in rhe daytime was such a big hurdle to overcome that I decided not to night toilet train him until that was sorted.

I did try and train him a few months ago but weren't getting anyway and he was very tired at school.

At the moment he is still wet in the mornings and when I tried the night training we would lift him at 11pm and then he would wet himself once or twice more in the night. Part of problem was he didn't even wake when wet so he must be a deep sleeper.

My partner thinks should wait til he's dry in the mornings before taking nappy off but I want to try anyway. So, can someone give me advice on how to go about it with a child of this age. Are bed wetting alarms any good?


So thought will try again in the hold.

[ChristinedePizan]

Personally I don't think you can train a child to wake up when they wee - it's a developmental thing. If he is still weeing once or twice in the night after you've put him on the loo at 11pm, I think you're probably on a hiding to nothing.

Sorry, that's probably not what you want to hear!

[girlywhirly]

Read the thread below, 'Lifting at night' for reasons why your partner is right about waiting.

Healthcare professionals do not treat bedwetting until a child is 7. Also there is a hereditary link, so if a child's dad or mum were late to become dry at night, chances are they will be too. If your DS sleeps deeply and his nappies aren't coping, could you try to change him in his sleep before you go to bed?

[SondayMumday]

We're having this issue too. Ds just turned 5. Still in pull ups at night. Not dry in the morning tho think just one wee in the pull ups at night. Not keen on lifting him as instinct says once he's asleep, to let him get a good night's rest cos he's an early riser and don't want to wake him. Feel he's behind his peers tho and want to crack it once and for all. Feel we've not helped by being lazy. Maybe arrival of ds 2 had not helped. Any tips?

[MaeBee]

hi, is this thread still active?
day 1 of trying again to stop bedwetting. my son is 6 and has never had a dry night, usually goes 2 or 3 times at night i suspect (usually wets through pull up pants). he hasn't had a daytime accident for years.
we are booked in at the bedwetting clinic in 2 weeks so have been told to stop using pull up pants at night and record everything. last night i woke him at 9.30 for a wee but he couldn't go. he called me at 1.30 freezing after presumably lying in wee for sometime. i changed the bedding. this morning at 7 he was wet again but it was warm enough so he didn't bother calling me.
i'm feeling really sorry for myself and tired! and so is he, and i just don't know if i'm doing the right thing or it's too soon or what.but i think once we've started we have to go on til the appointment (it's next wed. my expartner was meant to begin 2 days ago during the weekend but he "forgot").
we've tried several times before, but not for a few months. i don't really know what i'm looking for here. just support and tips i guess!!
he doesn't drink after 6 and he goes for a wee last thing at night and first thing in the morning.

[dog377]

Interesting discussion. My DD is 5.5 and has been dry during the day for years. For 6 months we have been putting her to bed without pull ups and then lifting her at 10.00 ish for a wee. Recently she has started wetting her bed. It varies from early hours to just as she wakes up. 3 times in 7 days so we have reverted last night to big girls night pants after reading that there are others in the same position. Guess what - didn't lift her last night and hey presto she's dry this morning. I think it's a mental thing with her. If we can get a few dry nights then try without and stop lifting maybe that's the answer.

[Fresh01]

Got the same issue with my DD2 who was 5 in the autumn. Tried most things but she is such a deep sleeper and just doesn't wake even when wet. Feel bad for her as DS who is about to be 3 is dry at night and has just stopped wearing nappies. She is in pull ups at moment I have told her for my sake as I have a baby as well and can't keep changing sheets. She can do odd nights so it can be done.