3 yr old DD was dry, now always wetting her pants, makes me want to cry!

[maryo2]

..... well there are lots of similar posts out there but it's my turn to have a rant too. I'm so exasperated.
DD was sucessfully potty trained at 2.5. Around her 3rd birthday she just started to have wet patches, which grew, and never went to the loo on her own any more. Eventually just said Mummy my pants are wet...... I've been kind, patient, understanding, checked for UTIs, but I'm fed up now. This has been going on 4 months now.
I know they miss the attention from early potty training days, are more absorbed in play, don't want to miss out on stuff....etc, BUT!!!!
she's also naughty lots, testing the boundaries all the time, says NO when I suggest she needs a wee, has a little brother (14 months) who is getting mobile and all the attention....?
Have tried sticker charts but don't find they make a real difference in the medium term....
Maybe the instant treat - the choclate button! - (Read someone else's post) but try NOT to use food as bribes (she's difficult with her food as it is, don't want to create wrong power associations there1) in general.
Her granny always says ''doesn't matter'' and puts her in dry things. DD has taken this on and tells me all the time that it ''doesn't matter''.
Today I was fed up and told her that it DOES MATTER! IT SMELLS, ITS NOT NICE WHEN YOU SIT ON OTHER PEOPLE'S LAPS ETC......
She seemed to register this shift in my attitude so who knows whether it will make a difference, but is it wrong for me to get cross with her....
Poos always go in the potty, so I guess I'm lucky on that front!
Your thoughts please you wise people!
Thanks. x

[Sleepwhenidie]

Put her back in pull ups and don't make a big deal out of it. It is soo frustrating but don't show it. Life will become much less stressful for you and once she isn't getting any attention on the issue she will get bored. Do a couple of weeks of pull ups then every week or even 4 days or so, offer her the option of pants when getting dressed (especially if they are nice ones in her view-peppa pig encouraged my DD - she will soon take it and then praise her, but not too much!

I have been through this with 2 DC's, can you tell . sure I will make the same mistakes all over again with dc3.....

[Sleepwhenidie]

Oh also, even though DD regressed on weeing, like yours, poo always went in the loo so changing her pull ups really wasn't so bad. Wish I could have said the same for ds1 but that's boys for you!