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3yo DS holds onto wee for HOURS, then gets UTIs - help!

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thelittlebluepills Mon 20-Jun-11 20:23:44

DS2 seems to be afraid to wee on the potty and will hold onto his wee for hours (e.g. 7hours) by which time he starts to develop a urine infection, weeing hurts and we have lots of distress etc

We have had some successful wees on the potty and he was really pleased with himself - we all cheered etc etc but then the next day he'll hold onto it again and then be in pain - so we have to put him back in a pull-up (which he doesn't want to do) so that he relaxes and actually does a wee

We are praising all his weeing -whether it's on the potty, nappy or all down his legs and all over the carpet, we are trying to get as much water into him as possible so that he has to wee

After 4 days in pants (with varying success) we've had to go back into pull ups today and he has had a rather painful and stressful day.

Please help sad

RitaMorgan Mon 20-Jun-11 20:26:48

Will he wee in a nappy, but sitting on a potty? The maybe try weeing on a nappy laid in the bottom of the potty, then eventually weeing without the nappy there at all.

JarethTheGoblinKing Mon 20-Jun-11 20:29:55

How old is he?

Tbh id stick him back in nappies for a few weeks and try again when he's forgotten about it a bit.

Also encourage him to drink as much as possible, anything to get the fluids into him

JarethTheGoblinKing Mon 20-Jun-11 20:30:28

Sorry, meant is he just 3 or nearly 4?

thelittlebluepills Mon 20-Jun-11 20:56:48

If he's got a nappy on he refuses to sit on the potty - "I got nappy, I no sit on potty" hmm

He's just turned 3. He had a circumcision a couple of months ago (for medical reasons) so we've had a break from potty training until he got over that and got used to his "new" willy.

This is actually the 4th time we've started potty training and then had to stop because of infections/pain/distress. We get a little bit further each time but I'm just hoping there's some way we could crack it for good.

Potty training is my parenting nightmare so I feel totally inadequate with all this - DS1 is 6.5yo still wets his pants half the time (cos he can't be bothered to stop what he's doing and go to the loo) and is also in pull ups still at night

<deep sigh>

RitaMorgan Mon 20-Jun-11 21:03:30

Maybe start with weeing in his nappy next to the potty/in the bathroom? Does he respond well to bribery?

JarethTheGoblinKing Mon 20-Jun-11 21:11:51

3 is still young for a lot of boys. We tried at 3 with DS, total fail, gave it another try 2 months later (with no mention of potty inbetween) and he just did it. Sounds like it's causing all of you a lot of stress (him included) so why not just stop for a while.

Might save you months of agro tbh.

JarethTheGoblinKing Mon 20-Jun-11 21:15:45

Oh, what did really help was this star chart. Every time DS did a wee he got a sticker. Once he'd filled up the chart at the end of the week he got a toy (even if he hadn't quite done it, jsut to spur him on)

StayFrosty Mon 20-Jun-11 21:23:00

My dd still does this, she is 4 and has been out of nappies in the day for almost 2 years sad

She has been referred to the children's urology dept, they told us her bladder is all stretched sad

We have various incentives for weeing, she'll get a raffle ticket from a book or a stamp on her hand. But she hates weeing and will argue all the time and try and get out of doing one, even though she knows it's making her poorly and she hates going to her hospital appointments. It is really wearing me down actually sad

Sorry, that wasn't very helpful. I'm sorry.

thelittlebluepills Mon 20-Jun-11 21:38:56

Stayfrosty- sorry to hear about your DD, it was actually a very helpful post as has inspired me to talk to paediatric urologist about possible physical causes/complications when we go for circumcision follow up appt

StayFrosty Mon 20-Jun-11 22:08:39

Oh well that's one good thing smile i do hope it's sorted out soon.

To me, it's one of those parenting things that is hard to negotiate - i am finding it hard to strike a balance between being strict enough, but not making it an ishooooo. It's fine if we're off out somewhere, it's like 'come on dd when you've had a wee we can do x y z' and off she runs and does one, but when we're stuck in normal life i find myself having trouble persuading her to stop what she's doing and have a wee, she can argue for england.

But hopefully this is just a temporary thing for your ds, good luck resolving it.

nannyl Tue 21-Jun-11 22:38:16

if he actually has a UTI then (IMO) he needs to see a GP to sort it

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