DS thinks I will be cross if he uses potty :((2 Posts)
So DS (2.8) had started to be really interested in the potty, asked to sit on it several times a day, seemed excited when presented with the option of pants etc, but if he's ever naked or in pants he's fine until he needs a wee and then suddenly starts hopping around holding his willy getting really distressed and saying he needs a nappy on. If I try to reassure him or offer him the option of the potty/toilet he gets more upset. Eventually I got out of him that if he wees on the potty, he thinks I will be cross. I don't know why he thinks this except that he has had a few accidents on the floor when naked and although I used to be really blase about this and just say matter of factly "oh look, you're doing a wee wee on the floor", more recently I tend to automatically shriek "Stop stop!" and look around ineffectually for a potty to catch it in, which I know I shouldn't but I don't even realise I'm doing it I have always been really reassuring afterwards and "Never mind, look, we can just clean it up with this cloth, you did a wee wee! That's really clever!" etc etc.
I've tried telling him that I won't be cross, telling him that I would be happy, telling him I would be proud, even offering the idea of chocolate buttons, but he doesn't seem to understand or believe me (not sure which) and I have a horrible feeling we're past the stage now where I can just let him wander around naked and be prepared to react to accidents in a very neutral way because he just hates being naked so much now.
I'm starting to get a bit nervous about it though as I was hoping he would be able to start preschool in January (possibly even October) but they won't accept children who aren't potty trained.
Ok, both October and January are AGES away
most children who are properly ready to train are pretty reliable 2 - 3 weeks after training so plenty if time yet.
Personally id got back to nappies, for a few weeks, perhaps try again in July / Augast, but have the potty around, perhaps in the bathroom and just see is he sits there while waiitng for bath etc.
Also lots of potty / toilet books etc etc
once he has forgotten how scarey it is you can start a fresh, but give him a break first
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