Painful sex after csection

[Clockticktock]

Since having a c section sex is so painful, not the scar or anything like that but actually inside it's like a burning pain.

It's been 10 months and its really starting to affect my marriage. Sometimes I try and push through the pain but I just end up feeling resentful towards my husband for hurting me. He does know its painful but when I initiate I think he assumes it's better again.

I did go to the doctors a few months ago but it was a disaster, she inserted a speculum to take a look which obviously was painful then when I'd sat up again she realised she forgot to take a swab so she had to insert it again. It was so awful. I was asking her if it was hormone related or what she thought and she just said she didn't have a clue and went to ask her colleague. Then she said it might be in my head.

I know I should go to the doctors again but I dont know what to say or do. They think it's nothing but I would just like to be able to have sex with my husband without it hurting!

Has anyone else experienced this?

[Dinosauratemydaffodils]

I found it was sore until I stopped breastfeeding after both of mine. Are you breastfeeding?

Was it an emergency section or an elective?

[NerrSnerr]

Mine was really sore for a long while. I think it took about a year with both children. I also had a smear test about 9 months after my second and it was agony. My youngest is nearly 3 and I'm back to normal now.

[Clockticktock]

Yes I am still breastfeeding, that's interesting that it stopped when you stopped feeding. This is my second emergency c section and I never had this pain the first time!

Very reassuring to know it might get better I wonder if it is hormonal then

[Dinosauratemydaffodils]

Very reassuring to know it might get better I wonder if it is hormonal then

My Dr SiL said it is. I think it has something to do with the fact our bodies produce less estogen whilst breastfeeding but I fully admit I was drunk (as was she) when I asked her because whilst we are close, I'm not sure she wants to think about her little brother having sex.

[Blondiecub0109]

I was going to say are you BF? I was very sore, even with lube, until I stopped BF. Felt like it had ‘closed up’ . I had an ELCS as well so not even a whiff of labour. Back to normal now though.

[user1493413286]

When I had a debrief with the consultant she asked me if sex was ok and I said it was a bit sore and she explained it was to do with breastfeeding although I can’t remember exactly why although the estrogen explanation above sounds familiar. I’m sure she offered me a prescription for something but in the end I just used some lube with helped and when I stopped breastfeeding it all went back to normal.
I’d go back to the GP and see a different one who understands that this is important

[legalseagull]

Everyone else has said it already, but yea, it's the BF. It lowers your sex drive and dries you out. Makes sense really. Your body is trying to put you off having another baby as you're busy looking after one!

[Wanderlust12]

Just wondering how long this took to get better? Having the same problem 8 months pp and still breastfeeding.

[Inthesky42]

I have the same I'm 8 months pp still breastfeeding. With my first I didn't have this problem (both c sections first was emcs second elcs) but I'm hoping it's hormonal and will get better when I stop feeding! Right now I just use lots of lube and find it gets a bit better after a few minutes. I really hope I'm not stuck with painful sex forever!